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Hi Dolly-
My Dad has had tremendous luck on Match.com - he has been seeing a woman for about 7 years now and they are best friends and happy together. Although I wish he hadn't sworn to never marry again after my Mom passed, I give his girlfriend credit that she can go this long without a proposal!!! She is sweet, my family loves her and she treats all of us (grandkids included) just great.

The man I met was back in Buffalo about six months after my husband and I seperated. He was divorced with three kids, a kind person and good father. I let him know in the beginning the circumstances of my marriage breakup and that I would probably be moving to NJ (I did) so I was just looking for companionship until the divorce was final and then I could move... It turned out to be a very good experience and since we had both tried so hard to save our marriages, we had a connection with each other that is hard to have with others that have not been through it.

I did learn that dating a man with three children is tough, and his situation was even tougher because his ex-wife had become involved in some sordid things, and he had to be both mom and dad to his kids.

I hope he and I will always be friends, but I suspect that since we are both in our 30's, we will likely drift apart when we meet someone special. I'll always be thankful to him for getting me thru a difficult time. He even met my family a few times and it was a good experience.

Again, I'd recommend Internet dating to anyone, as long as you can tell yourself that you have no great expectations. Then if it turns out to be just "ok" then you've had a good time, but if it's wonderful, then its a BONUS!

Just got in.. are you still around? Sounds like your dad & his SO have a healthy relationship & it seems to work.

I agree with the statements you made here. Seems the formulas of idealism don't always mean "one size fits all". Each person comes with varied baggage & backgrounds which will determine how they will approach new relationships.

The long relationship I had with "john" only died because of his kids. NOT the kids per se but his manner of dealing with them & our different ideas of discipline, parenting & do spouse or kids come first?

That was 2 years ago. I still see him for bike, kayak & dog walk outings but do NOT regret not marrying him. He still has a mess with kids that manipulate him, that he tries to "buy" & wants to be his buddies.. not his kids.

He will never change & will always be frustrated (as he was when he called me today with he NEGLECT on Father's day) with the way he has "trained" them to be as adults.