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To: gopwinsin04
It might be strange for a guy to say so, but I feel the same way.

It's not natural for men to remain celibate until marriage. But that's something I want to give my wife, should I ever get married. The fact that so many men don't wait just makes it more special in some way.
4 posted on 06/16/2006 9:14:04 AM PDT by JamesP81
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To: JamesP81

I waited until I got married (at age 33), and I'm glad I did. So is my wife.


5 posted on 06/16/2006 9:16:05 AM PDT by opus86
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To: JamesP81

I don't know why saving yourself for the one you want to spend your life with is so hard for some people to grasp. I know that people who feel that way are teased about it. I think it's wise and wonderful that you would do that!


29 posted on 06/16/2006 10:10:02 AM PDT by derllak
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To: JamesP81

I once was surfing radio channels and happened upon a discussion about premarital sex. This young guy called in and made an argument for chasity that I'd never heard before.

He said he'd decided to stay a virgin until marriage b/c he felt it gave him the best chance of really getting to know his potential wife and knowing whether they could work together to make marriage work.

He said once sex was part of the relationship, it tended to cover up a lot of weak or negative things in the relationship; it tended to be a way to gloss over problems rather than actually communicating with intelligent discussion about the problem.

He also said one other thing that surprised me, but made sense as I thought about it. He said that he figured that in all relationships there would come a time when sex wasn't as important as it was initially---he talked about as people got older, busy with children, etc. He said if he loved his wife enough to marry her before they had sex, he figured he'd love his wife enough to get through the stretches when sex once again wasn't such a big part of life, for whatever reason.

He ended by saying he knew so many guys who, when the relationship became more about the relationship and less about sex, said, "I like this girl why?", and he didn't want to be in that boat after he was already married.

Your future wife will be a blessed woman, I believe.


30 posted on 06/16/2006 10:14:30 AM PDT by wouldntbprudent (If you can: Contribute more (babies) to the next generation of God-fearing American Patriots!)
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To: JamesP81
It's not natural for men to remain celibate until marriage.

Depends on what you mean by 'natural.' It is not 'natural' for those walking in the flesh to remain celibate until marriage, be they male or female. It is perfectly 'natural' for those walking in the Spirit. (Natural doesn't mean easy, by the way.)

32 posted on 06/16/2006 10:19:39 AM PDT by MEGoody (Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.)
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To: JamesP81
"It's not natural for men to remain celibate until marriage."

Please do not buy into that lie! My biggest regret is that I was unable to come to my wife as she came to me so many years ago. With the STDs that can cause tremendous problems later in life so common today, it is the greatest wedding gift you could possibly give to your Bride.
37 posted on 06/16/2006 10:54:40 AM PDT by VRWCtaz (Conservatism is about promoting opportunity and Liberalism is about controlling outcome.)
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To: JamesP81
It's not natural for men to remain celibate until marriage

Actually it's not only natural, it's pretty much impossible for them not to.

"Celibate" from L. cælibatus: unmarried.

39 posted on 06/16/2006 11:03:45 AM PDT by Oztrich Boy (Yes, I am pedantic. Why do you ask?)
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To: JamesP81

"It's not natural for men to remain celibate until marriage"


It isn't "natural" for any human,

that's what makes it so special, the kind of person that can bring that to a marriage is very much a cut above in the great qualities that make exceptional people and in the qualities that all true romantics long for in their chosen mate.


Here's hope that you'll find the right girl.


52 posted on 06/16/2006 9:33:56 PM PDT by ansel12
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