No offense intended but maybe you should accept your wife the way she is. Trying to change her personality is just going to make you both miserable. IMO, anyway.
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I didn't mean to suggest I try to change her! We've been married 20 years, we just talk about everything. I love her the way she is, and thank GOD she still seems to find me sexy, even tho I've gained 50 pounds since the good ole days!