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"Personally, I see nothing positive about single. I become frustrated with people who try to tell me that there is something positive about it. Being single is horrible. Being single is better than being in a bad marriage..."

I guess it's all in our perspective. I've grown to enjoy singlehood. I'm so busy with school and work, I don't think I would have enough time for a relationship. Plus, I've slept in my own bed by myself for so long, I don't know what I'd do if I had to share it. LOL! I think I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be in a bad marriage. But, it's all personal opinion.

I guess it's all in our perspective. I've grown to enjoy singlehood. I'm so busy with school and work, I don't think I would have enough time for a relationship. Plus, I've slept in my own bed by myself for so long, I don't know what I'd do if I had to share it. LOL! I think I would rather be single for the rest of my life than be in a bad marriage. But, it's all personal opinion.

I see your point, if you do have a full plate in your life, it is best for a relationship of that type to wait. ik now in my case ,I'm trying to dig myself out of an economic funk so in my case, I have to slay a few of those demons before I can truly have the time, money and ability to commit myself to someone else. I think society in general and it's expectations along with relatives at times make people rush into those things. You know, "he's 30 or 40, why ain't he married" and to pacify the relatives and/or soicety, people might make bum decisions and they will mosy likely get stung and live with that the rest of their lives. It is like my best friend, I love him like a brother, been together since grade school, but he rushes into things like that and no matter how many times he got burnt, he still does. If you remember the cartoon, "The Tick," the logic of "The Tick" where he says, "leap before you look" would make a good description of my buddy when it comes to relationships.

I'm glad that you're happy with your situation. I'll always hate being single, but the way in which I hate it changes with time. I hope that you're able to continue enjoying your situation as time passes. I realize that sharing a bed, a room, a house, or anything else would be a tough adjustment for me after being single for so long. When you mention that issue, I agree that changes could be tough. On the other hand, if I liked the person with whom I was sharing everything, relief from the loneliness would be very pleasant. A dehydrated man emerging from the desert is likely to choke on his first swallow of water or throw it up as soon as he swallows. However, that water will eventually save his life.

My word of warning is not to wait too long if you want to be married someday. While I never liked being single, I always felt that I had plenty of time. The reality is that I didn't have plenty of time. I hit a bad patch in my career and spent six years getting back on my feet. Living through those times with a wife would have been difficult, but a good marriage could have survived. As it was, when I finally emerged again, I was old enough that my choices weren't very good. It's great to enjoy where one is in life, but it's also important to be sure that one isn't on a path to a bad place. I was on that path without knowing it and would hate to see others follow the same path.

Bill