Believe me, I've been there, when I was a ripped 117# freaking out that I had gained 18# from my boney 99#. I was constantly on the scales, crying my eyes out because I thought my thighs & my 36 inch hips were huge. I was a perfect size 8 then, but I hated the way I looked...you see, I really believed I was fat.
I remember when eating disorders and anorexia first came into the healthcare scene. I remember my first patient who was 1 step away from death and freaking out because we were serving her food with too much fat in it. I guess that was my wake-up call. Oh, maybe it was my own stint in the hospital. But that's another story.
Anyhow, check out every (I mean just about EVERY) woman's magazine out there.....
Seems we all are extremely flawed....our butts are too big, we're overweight, we're out of shape, our abs aren't flat enough, our boobs aren't big enough, our thighs cause thunder etc. We are constantly told we need fixing. Mostly, to be smaller....the smaller, the better
Add to that the strong reinforcement that only a size 10,
no, make that a size 8,
Oops!
This year it's a size 2!
That is the ideal woman's size.
Anything larger is ugly. Period.
No forgiveness allowed.
No matter how healthy, in shape, toned etc.
If you're larger than a 10, you're ugly.
Lastly,
Check out the threads here where severely underweight women are called hot and sexy and normal to slightly overweight women are called fat, or worse pigs. It would be nice to see a bit of balance, but I see FR like a portal into the real world. It's a rough place for anyone outside of the ideal. Which makes about 92% of us.
Ya know, we all strive to be strong and reach deep inside ourselves for self-worth and character. But if there is nothing but negative input around you, you do buy into the myth. I have, I still do at times. It's a horrendous struggle and often, you just have to walk away and isolate yourself.
I do feel for Lohan. Sadly, she lives and works in a profession that will only foster her self-loathing and destructive habits. I hope she can make some kind of escape, or have some kind of epiphany of self-worth that makes her long term health have more value that the short term rewards of being a skinny sex goddess (sarcasm intended).
Personally, I prefer curvey women.
If you check most of the threads, they're mostly called pigs because of what is hatched in their brain and comes out of their mouths.
If Ann Coulter did an Arianna Huffington, she would be a fat pig and be dead to me. Until then, she's cute and could use a burger.
Dittos for Catherine Zeta-Jones (she may be a big lefty but I haven't heard anything), Patricia Heaton, et al.