I am terribly sorry for your loss.
In California, you can have your licence suspended for 6 months on the first offense. That's if there's no accident, no speeding, no child in the car. I think that is extreme.
Now, I had an experience of my own on March 8 of this year. I got thoroughly smashed at a local pub and drove home. I was lucky. Nothing happened on the way home. However, my wife was understandably pissed at me. I haven't had a drop since. Now, I don't know whether or not I'll drink again but if I do, I hope I have enough sense not to drive.
Why take the risk?