It didn't really. I think your emphasis is consistently misplaced in that it comes across as you seeking some equality of punishment, when there is a consensus (which you may or may not share) that there isn't a full equality of the dynamics of the two different situations.
Why should the punishment be equal (or comperable) when the violation is of a different nature? That's the question for me, and the answer is (to me, and to most) that it shouldn't be equal.
"Why should the punishment be equal (or comperable) when the violation is of a different nature?"
Exactly. So logically I would assume you believe in the counter argument, that if the violation is of the same nature, then the punishment should be the same? Here we are talking about a violation that is the same. A man does it, he gets jail, a woman does it she gets a pass..
This is the only difference. (we'll proffer that on a case by case basis details may vary, of course, but you get the point)