Most people confuse the definition of equality all the time, which is what you are adressing. Equality doesn't mean that you treat everyone the same way.
It means you treat similarly situated people similarly, and you can differently situated people differently.
I don't think you are mindful of the second component of equality. You have to be mindful of the public policy concerns to fully evaluate the situations.
For purposes of sexuality, regardless of race males and females are situated differently, so its fair to treat them differently.
Is this difficult to cope with?
"Is this difficult to cope with?"
The multitude of times I reference differences between males and females in the multitude of posts I made here should answer your question.....
"Most people confuse the definition of equality all the time, which is what you are adressing"
Some people confuse rhetorical questions with actual political/ethical/moral beliefs,positions and convictions, especially when it appears to re-inforce an argument, which is what you are referencing. I understand the definition of equality. No need to explain, thanks..