I never did any of that but I did have one girl who was a friend. I was too shy to escalate it beyond friendship and she moved on before I finally had the strength to do so. I still deeply regret that.
Read some of my older posts, and you will see that you are not the ONLY one, to have made that mistake, Paul.
The only thing I regret is this awesome girl I knew in college that I would have done anything for -- I loved to see her smile!
She was in a horrible relationship with this guy that I saw right through, and I couldn't have been happier when they broke up.
After a long time apart, he proposed to her as a way to get back together. Not a good idea. We were really close friends at this time, and I remember going to a after-concert celebration for the singing group we both were in. She was going to be married the week after, if I recall.
She was so sad that night, and I just wanted to say to her, "You don't have to be married if you don't want to." She went off by herself and I followed her. She hugged me with tears in her eyes and said, "Some girl is going to be extremely lucky to marry you." Then she said something about always wanting to marry a guy like me.
Like a wimp, I just held her. I should have been a man and told her that she was not exhibiting normal behavior going into a marriage. But I walked away that night because I couldn't tell her how I felt about her.
I remember crying as I drove away, because I was never going to see her again.