Dating After Divorce: Venturing into The Dark Abyss

www.elitestv.com ^ | Dr. Hu Fleming

[apackof2]

Men vastly underestimate the complexity and depth of a woman's social programming. Women vastly overestimate a man's.

So very true!

[apackof2]

But ladies, hunks striving for righteousness are out here!

Do you have a list you would care to share?!

LOL

[PaulaB]

remember that doin' your best to stay attractive

I agree...this was just back up for the "I Gotta wear sweats" days ;)

There is a full length mirror in our master bathroom that my hubby shaves in and I use to check "has my butt gotten bigger?"
where I hang pictures of he and I when we were young and first married. Glancing at these everyday reminds us of the crazy youth we once were and still can be in a 30ish married way plus reminds us we are still those people..even if in the other room we are hearing

" Mom/dad where are you? we need money for going to movies with friends"

**sigh**
back to reality ;)

[apackof2]

But when put to the test, biology speaks louder than any creed.

You can't generalize like that because you can only speak of those men in your sphere of accquaintace

Perhaps you don't know any truly sold out to Jesus men?

Not to say these men don't have temptations but they have a different view point of women and sex.

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

"Do you have a list you would care to share?!"

I'm listless a list of one, Baby! ;^)

But the truth is, like God told Elisha in the cave, there are seven thousand who have not, um, bent the knee....

Taking that one thought further, if we were to take that 7000 and convert it to a percentage of ancient Israel's population, then apply that same percentage to the USA--we might find how many American singles indeed seek first the Kingdom of God, and His righteousness...

http://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1%20Kings%2019:18;&version=45;

[day10]

I have given it a little thought and I am just not sure yet, really. Also, I have 2 boys, 10 and 8 years old, who keep me pretty busy, so time is also a factor. Basically, I am very unsure, and frankly, I would wonder if anyone would want to date me to begin with..... who knows. It is so very strange to even think about these things. :-)

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[LucyT]

Here's an article that may be of interest on this thread.

Cohabitation: a Recipe for Marital Ruin (Puts Partners and Kids at Risk)
Zenit News Agency ^ | October 1, 2005

http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1496035/posts

[apackof2]

I would wonder if anyone would want to date me to begin with

Why oh why would you ever wonder that?

Didn't a wonderful woman (your wife) want you!?

[Goodgirlinred]

I know how you feel. But you are young.What, in your early 30's? Of course someone will want to date you. Be sure you are ready before you date. I wish I had waited longer. Maybe I would have known Disaster#1 and Disaster #2 for what they were and not gotten hurt.

[Victoria Delsoul]

Hugh Hefner, for example, is a sick man who's figured out a way to degrade women to sex objects, use them and profit off the males who fantasize about those messed-up, beautiful women.

I agree. Hugh Hefner is a big time liberal and a frequent contributor to the DNC. No self-respecting conservative would emulate the likes of Hug Hefner nor would he or she be burdened by such self-degrading behavior.

[Alamo-Girl]

Thank you so much for that post!!! Hugs!

[SMARTY]

If men only knew how simple it is. Just be a gentleman. No guy has to look like a celeb or throw money around like it's confetti. But he ought to be tidy and courteous. Of course one of the few ABSOLUTE requirements is decent table manners and I will NOT sit down in public with a man who keeps his hat on in front of me, or with me or won't hold the door for me. That's not really asking too much.

[MotleyGirl70]

I can't complain about my "ex" when it comes to that; he had good manners, treated me well...opened my door , took my coat off, pulled out my chair on special nights out on the town.

Finding a man with good dinner manners may seem superficial, but it's important. At least for me it is. Don't shovel food in your face like it's your last meal.

[day10]

Yes, she did - but I figure that was a once in a lifetime kind of thing. You would have to hear the story of how we met, etc. Too long to go into here.

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[day10]

Wow - I wish I was early 30's again. I am actually 42 - ugh, 43 quite soon.

But I am jnot going to act like it! LOL

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[day10]

Baby, Baby Don't Get Hooked on Me - Mac Davis

My brain is filled with useless information such as this.

[Mr. Jeeves]

If men only knew how simple it is. Just be a gentleman.

Being a gentleman is an essential life skill. It is a necessary component of maintaining a relationship, building a good professional reputation, and establishing oneself as a solid member of the community.

But by itself, being a gentleman does nothing to attract women - any more than being a gentleman qualifies a man to run a nuclear power plant or manage the Yankees. It's just a minimum standard of civilized behavior.

Attracting women in the post-feminist era is a much bigger game, with a complex set of guidelines. The man who knows how to attract women can choose to behave like a gentleman, or not - it doesn't really affect his attractiveness, though failing to be a gentleman might negatively impact his ability to maintain relationships later on.

The process isn't simple at all. ;)

[SMARTY]

If he is not a gentleman, where's the attraction...??

When you are attracted to a woman, is she sitting in a public place picking her nose? Is she still attractive?

[apackof2]

I figure that was a once in a lifetime kind of thing

No it isn't

From reading posts on this thread you should get the picture that there are a lot of good conservative women looking for a good conservative man.

[day10]

I guess I'll just have to take the "time will tell" approach with regard to my situation.... :-)

Hope all is well with you. Just curious: on your profile page where/ at what event are you speaking?

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