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My parents have never divorced and hence would puff up your statistic, but their marriage isn't happy.

Perhaps they stayed together "for the children." Not being sarcastic. In fact, the stats do indicate that the adult children of parents who stayed together--even when they might have preferred not to--are emotionally and otherwise better off than the children of those who sought greener (and younger and sexier) pastures. But living for others is evidently not your cup of tea. Which is why your marriage, like the marriages of so many people today who shack up to "test the merchandise," will probably not be what a marriage can be--and why your children will no doubt suffer for it.

But living for others is evidently not your cup of tea. Which is why your marriage, like the marriages of so many people today who shack up to "test the merchandise," will probably not be what a marriage can be--and why your children will no doubt suffer for it.

Those words seem far too judgemental for my tastes, although I agree with you philosophically and on religious and moral grounds.

God still sits in His Heaven and His Spirit can and will influence the hearts and minds of men and women everywhere, urging them to turn to His Son and put on a new countenance. We help in that endeavor (at least in my experience) by witnessing in love and understanding as to His truth...and being direct where necessary, but avoiding being judgemental and offensive. Sometimes people will be offended no matter how we approach our witnessing...but I have not seen that in this particuar poster on this thread.

Just my opinion as weak as I am personally in trying to practise it.

The marriage I witnessed firsthand was destructive. I don't know how I would have turned out if they'd divorced, but I do know that what I grew up in is not a situation to raise children in.

But living for others is evidently not your cup of tea. Which is why your marriage, like the marriages of so many people today who shack up to "test the merchandise," will probably not be what a marriage can be--and why your children will no doubt suffer for it.

You assume things about me you're in no position to assume. Personally, I think the casualness with which you think you can judge, and predict the futures of people you don't even know (as well as their children!) has the chance to lead to its own set of problems --- in your marriage, in your children, in your life. But those who best know you can best say.

I like knowing as much as I can about someone before I commit myself to life with them. The decision is that important.

Perhaps they stayed together "for the children." Not being sarcastic. In fact, the stats do indicate that the adult children of parents who stayed together--even when they might have preferred not to--are emotionally and otherwise better off than the children of those who sought greener (and younger and sexier) pastures. But living for others is evidently not your cup of tea. Which is why your marriage, like the marriages of so many people today who shack up to "test the merchandise," will probably not be what a marriage can be--and why your children will no doubt suffer for it.

This is unbelievable. How DARE you pass your own judgement on his marriage's future? Where do you get off acting like you know anything?? Last I checked, fortune-telling wasn't a Christian practice. You, sir, are absolutely disgusting. Would you stand in a neighbor's yard and shout at him that his relationship is doomed if he happens to live with a girlfriend or fiancee instead of a wife? I bet you would. I feel sorry for you, and your arrogance and inflated self-importance. Oh, and how exactly are people going to "live for others" capably without occassionally taking the time to think "Am *I* happy?". If everyone allows themselves to be miserable for someone else, guess what? Everyone's miserable!!! The person you're trying to make happy by neglecting yourself is neglecting theirself for someone else, and so on and so on! Ugh..