Posted on 07/18/2005 2:36:48 AM PDT by Selkie
HIGH earners of both genders boast an increased libido over their poorer colleagues, but only the wealthy men end up having more sex.
As their incomes rise, men and women are more likely to have a higher sex drive, according to a study of almost 30,000 people from 170 countries - the largest survey of its kind.
The findings, from an online survey conducted by the BBC, offer fresh evidence for the theory that women tend to be more attracted to men with money and resources, but that a woman's wealth does not much affect her sex appeal to men.
"Men accumulate resources, which they use to attract women," said John Manning, professor of psychology at the University of Central Lancashire, who analysed the results.
"When it comes to men with little by way of resources, women are just not interested in them at all. As a man's earning power goes up, you would expect him to be having more sex and be with more sexual partners." Feminine charms were little enhanced by income because men paid more attention to other qualities, such as looks, Professor Manning said.
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Well, OK, but "liability" sounds more polite. ;)
Same result.
Should have added that "cute" is subjective, lol.
I want to move to one of those towns where if you have all your fingers and teeth you're considered a "catch."
Well, Mr. Gun is a Prince of a man, to be sure!
Exactly. The thing women just can't grasp or accept is that sex itself is the goal for men. For women it is always a means to some other end.
For a married man, that means he always has to provide some other end goal for his wife to be there for him. This can be pretty difficult since she likely got what she wanted when she married him and had a couple of kids.
A lot of affairs and subsequent divorces are practically engineered by the fortyish wife because she decides to "retire" sexually at precisely the time when her husband hit the peak of his game in his ability to provide what women want.
Late 30s/early 40s is generally when women reach their sexual peak.
I think the problem is, far too often, that the husband wants to come home from work, eat dinner, then sit watching TV all evening ignoring the wife while she clears up after dinner, helps kids with their homework, gets kids ready for bed, organizes things for morning, does laundry, etc. Then he expects her to be 'excited' about a 5 minute "love making" session. Doesn't work that way.
I can see why a woman would want to 'retire' from that.
Smart husbands know that women need emotional intimacy, and a feeling of being loved, in order to want sex. There's a book out called 'Sex Begins in the Kitchen.' Great read for men who want to make things better between themselves and their wives.
There are some guys who understand that women are 'wired' differently than men and actually want to meet their wife's needs. Then there are others who have no interest in understanding their wives better or fulfilling her needs.
I have never found any pop culture truism to be true. This is one of them that I have found no evidence of among any of my acquaintances. Women peak sexually during the first year of marriage for religious couples that abstain, and in their late teens/twenties for promiscuous women. The only middle aged women with any libido are single, and that only because they are trying to snare a husband.
I think the problem is, far too often, that the husband wants to come home from work, eat dinner, then sit watching TV all evening ignoring the wife while she clears up after dinner, helps kids with their homework, gets kids ready for bed, organizes things for morning, does laundry, etc. Then he expects her to be 'excited' about a 5 minute "love making" session.
Another untrue but popular myth. I know of no husbands that fit that mold and the truth is older men are far more likely to take longer in love making than young men, especially since there is no telling when his older wife will be willing again.
The young men I know show little or no interest in helping with housework or children, older husbands do.
Smart husbands know that women need emotional intimacy, and a feeling of being loved, in order to want sex.
Satisfied women don't have sex. You know the old adage about filling a jar in the first year of marriage and never emptying it. Every husband I have ever met has learned to be nicer to his wife as the marriage progressed, and has been rewarded with less sex. Women are most willing to have sex with their husbands the first year of marriage because they want to secure the marriage. As soon as they feel safe, the motivation to have sex disappears.
The only blessing in all this for the man is that he wants sex less as time goes on, so he is less frustrated.
Well, I've mingled with a lot of the un-intelligent, and there are just plain and simple a lot of people out there who just ain't got the brains to realize that a leads to b leads to c, and they really just don't care. Being able to afford an abortion, as you suggested, is really not an issue either.
Would you consider me an acquaintance? :)
I know of no husbands that fit that mold
I do. There are some 'young' ones and some 'old' ones. There are also some young and old husbands who DO get it.
Satisfied women don't have sex.
LOL Thank you for proving my point. There ARE men out there who don't get it.
That was actually from a quote I stole. I once showed up in a very small town driving a fancy rental car and three girls slipped me their numbers on the same day. My friend said, "You're a catch around here, you got all your fingers and teeth."
In regards to the rental car -- one of my favorite rental car stories -- the agency gave away my mid-sized, then rented every other car on the lot except a Porsche, which they eventually gave me after much bit@hing and moaning.
Nobody on the internet is an acquaintance.
I do. There are some 'young' ones and some 'old' ones. There are also some young and old husbands who DO get it.
If there is a correlation between the frequency of sexual activity in marriage and treating the wife the way she wants to be treated, it is inverse.
Satisfied women don't have sex.
LOL Thank you for proving my point. There ARE men out there who don't get it.
I am not talking about sexual satisfaction. What I am saying is that women are not typically motivated by libido. The are sexually motivated by need for other things, and sex is their means of obtaining those things.
Working very hard to do things exactly the way she wants it done in the bedroom is great for the man, but it has no effect on her motivation tomorrow night. She almost always starts from zero (or much lower), and is never motivated from that point. You are saying that men don't take the time to motivate or satisfy her, and that is different from my point that she isn't motivated in the first place, and is usually at a point where trying to interest her will do little more than annoy her.
Married women in good relationships with loving husbands have everything they want and therefore have no motivation other than gratitude, which is a particularly weak motivator.
So treat 'em bad and you'll get sex. Got it.
Thank you for proving my point.
Youre right, I think Selkie and I were being a bit hasty.
Rather than saying cute, smart, down to earth men are extinct, I should have just said rare!
btw: getting jaded occurs on both sides :o(
:o)
I can GUARANTEE this is already being commented on in Google Usenet soc.men threads. The misogynistst there are going to have a FIELD DAY!
Those chicks need the rich guy to buy them a hamburger or something. They look like they have missed too many meals.
OMG.....ROFL
See, not all women want a rich man..some will settle for a full set of chicklets and 10 fingers. LOL
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