Well, moving to another church might happen. I liked it there, but didn't love it. We stayed because they had a great homeschool group...which C is a leader of.
At this point I'm still trying to deal with the whole situation and I have no idea what I'm going to about this. How can I belong to a homeschool group where she's the leader??? I distrust her utterly! The funny thing is I am really not angry at her...my main emotion remains astonishment and distrust.
I'm gonna second that little "if you can't trust the pastor, who can you trust" thing. It's one reason I've always been iffy about big churches, part of the pastor's job is to watch out for his flock and if there's so many sheep he can't pick you out of the crowd - that's a problem.
Have you written or phoned her personally? - apart from actions taken on behalf of the group? I think 2J and C need to have a talk, sooner maybe better than later, not as members of these competing groups, but as friends. What do you think of that?