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My pack of four "best" girlfriends have all been together for 25+ years now; friendships formed in our early 20's.

As far as getting together to trash talk men, with five divorces between us, I will admit that, YES that has happened in the past, LOL! We're all finally settled down with really great guys now, so that's no longer an issue.

Now we're facing more important things such as aging gracefully, empty nests and new grandkids, various bouts of cancer, menopause, vericose veins, plastic surgery decisions, and politics; ALWAYS with the politics, LOL!

You know, IMPORTANT things instead of the stupidity we considered Oh So Important in our youth. :)

I have two friends with whom I have been very close for over 25 years. However, we did things as couples. Now that my husband has passed away, things are different. The one who has been my friend the longest does not live in my community. However, she still maintains contact and we get together. My friends in my community have seemed to drift away. Partially my fault, I guess, because I feel like a fifth wheel and the memories are painful. We all went out as couples from our early twenties, in my case since I was a teenager since I am younger.

I have made new friends on line who are also widows due to the same disease. We are close even though we don't get to see each other often. We share our feelings more than I can share them with my oldest friends. That is because we have this widowhood thing in common and the fact that we nursed our husbands during their battles with the same illness. We have found, though, that we have many other things in common. Our relationships are comfortable and sustain us in the most difficult and loneliest times.

I like male friends, but when you have lost your husband, you don't get to have them anymore. Everyone seems to assume there has to be a romantic relationship if you are friends with a man.