I have a quiet, introverted 13 year old daughter and I really have a disdain for the kids in her "group". She comes home crying once about every two weeks. She will tell us what happen and most of the time I say just ignore them and stay away to which my wife retorts that she can't do that she has to have friends. So I have changed and started saying kiss her ( the agitator ) butt. Again I am chastised. Most of the time it is the stupidest thing I have ever heard. Yesterday a boy wanted to ask my daughter "out" and a friend of hers told him "good you can shave your mustaches together". First she doesn't have one ( she is fair and blonde ) and she knows it, but what kind of crap is that. Since mom won't let her handle it the right way I have cued big brother in and he said he'll handle it.
Women are just not right. You take abuse for no good reason when a good butt-whipping will fix it. If you will confront just one of the school bullies the rest will leave you alone as well.
Sometimes I was in the "in" group...sometimes I was in the "out" group. I survived, and one way or the other so will she.
It sounds like she has "one proud (and good) dad," that will help a lot.
I could never understand, if you don't want to play with a certain kid, fine, don't play with them, but why tell everyone else in the class not to play with them?