Finola Hughes
And let us not forget Stifler's Mom...
Posted on 03/04/2005 6:05:40 AM PST by pissant
Why are men attracted to older women? Experience, wisdom, confidence and lots of practice in bed, says Vincent Jackson When I was a teenager, my mother's stock response to jokes I made about her advancing years was, 'There's many a good tune played on an old fiddle.' Of course I never really wanted to think about my mother playing a tune of any kind. However, my acne-faced classmates appeared to both understand about fiddles and know what fine melodies could be played on them. Perhaps that's why they'd continually remark: 'phwoar, I'd give yer mum one'!
Men's infatuations with older women start as soon as we're old enough to know what women are. And this curiosity surrounding the potential for pleasure with maturer females stays with us until, well - the day comes when there aren't any women left in the world older than us.
To be frank, men are initially drawn to older women (for our purposes, 'older' means at least 10 years senior) for sex. For example, Ben, a 26-year-old web designer, has been seeing a woman of 43 for nearly a year. She's reasonably affluent - has paid off her mortgage and has a two bedroom flat in North London. She also has a good career, is intellectual, very attractive, and according to Ben, 'the best shag I've ever had.'
Every single bloke I spoke to said sex was the best thing about being in a relationship with an older woman.
I imagine that their female conquests know this is the case. Let's not pull any punches here. Do you think for a minute that a 25-year-old man makes a play for a 40-year-old woman because he's interested in the Habitat crockery she may have accrued over time? Of course not. Older women tend to bring to bed a wealth of experience, confidence and tricks between the sheets that a young woman can only dream of. Show me a man who doesn't find the prospect of an experienced lover an exciting one, and I'll show you a liar
However, being an older woman doesn't necessarily guarantee good sex - if you're no good in bed at 25, who's to say you'll be a fully qualified love-goddess at 40? Yet, older women give the impression that they're better in bed because they're more comfortable with themselves. All those hang-ups about having a slight tummy, stretch marks or the odd spot of cellulite tend to become less important with age. A few of the men I spoke to insisted that they found these flaws attractive - a sign of a body that is real and lived in. As Ben says of his older lover, 'She's much more relaxed about herself and her body than many of the girls my age that I've slept with. She knows that her body is showing slight signs of ageing, but she accepts it and just gets on with life.'
Of course, sex is not the only allure of a younger man, older woman partnership. In fact, it would be easy to question why some men want to date women roughly the same age as their mothers, especially when the spectre of Oedipus looms so large. Ultimately, however, a bloke's motivation doesn't need to subjected to Freudian psychoanalysis. Put simply, mature women are, well, mature - they are older and wiser in their world view, and that's what a young man finds attractive.
By the time a woman reaches her mid-thirties, she's acquired confidence, the art of conversation, her own individual perspective on life and, most importantly, wisdom - a very sexy trait. Older women generally know what they want from life and in love and this can be refreshing after the annoying and frustrating relationship games so many younger women play. Older women also tend to be - well, richer - and sometimes young men get fed up with dining out at Spud-U-Like.
What about me? I've never had the pleasure of dating an older woman, but I'm 28 so there's still time. Since the age of 12 I've had various crushes on older ladies - teachers, family friends, the woman who worked in the video shop, a few non-blood related aunties (slightly dubious territory, I admit), and, just like my old school friends, my mates' mums. But I've never actually taken the plunge. However, I'm sure there's a fiddle out there with my name on it, and when I do get my chance, I'm certain its strings will yield some mighty fine music.
No, I wasn't heart broken, but I was offended. At 16, 34 seemed old to me and I couldn't understand how he could like my old, decrepit mother more than he liked a sweet young thing like myself.
Now that I'm 38, 34 sounds great. :-)
I guess you did not recognize at 16 that your mom was a hottie!!! ;o}
Finola Hughes
And let us not forget Stifler's Mom...
(Denny Crane: "Sometimes you can only look for answers from God and failing that... and Fox News".)
(Denny Crane: "Sometimes you can only look for answers from God and failing that... and Fox News".)
Yes, it was good to learn many "lessons" from an older gal.
I almost can't bear to use the words "my Mom" and "hottie" in the same sentence.
LOL.
Post a pic and let us judge.
I second the motion.
That's because - well - they have been married before and took at least half from the previous marriage(s)
My complaint about the Stacys Mom video is they should have choosen someone older.
Many a wise woman has let their hubby's run off with the office hottie in exchange for 1/2 of all future earnings....
I don't have any pictures of her on the computer from when she was young. And if I did have one and someone said something negative about her, I'd have to hunt them down and beat them to a bloody pulp and I'm just not in the mood for kicking a man's butt today. :-)
That's a definite turn-off to older women, too. I am a widow, and have never been divorced. The last thing I'm looking for now is a lifetime of divorce consequences (including bitterness) with a twice or thrice divorced man ... and that eliminates almost all the men around my age.
However, having raised 4 sons, I'm not willing to date anyone around their ages either.
Thankfully, I haven't heard this song much.
It's 1 thing to have a "crush". It's another for it to be all sex-charged. Enough w/that crap.
And besides, their music is so noisy and the words so garbled, I thought it was
"CiCi's Mom"!
Just how old are we talking?
I wouldn't count on that until she's 45+.
Oh pissant, once again YOU are my hero. Thanks for pointin' out the fact that we "older" girls have some life left.
Well, you are one up on me. I never heard the damn song. I tuned out rock & roll (pop) 10 years ago. Listen to the Classical station or talk radio. Still will crank my ZZ Top, Dylan or Stones CDs on occasion.
BTW there is no such thing as "crush" that isn't "sex charged" for a 16 yo boy. ;o}
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