So what's a nice guy supposed to do, act like a jerk? Sorry not willing to give up who I am just because it will help get me a girl. I'm a nice guy and if a woman can't appreciate that she can date all the jerks she wants I'm not interested
You don't have to be a jerk, you just have to show independence, be a bit cavalier, and not cling to her like poop on a shoe. Women hate clingy dudes & mama's boys.
No, you don't have to give up being a nice guy and you don't have to pretend to be a jerk. My husband is a very nice guy. Part of what attracted me to him was that he teased me. It was a more sophisticated version of pulling a girl's ponytail and running away. And it worked wonders. I can be very intense and serious and he was the first man that had the ability to make me laugh at myself.
There's someone for everyone. I prefer guys who are nice, as opposed to being a hardass.
Some of us Freepers explored this topic a while back - the choice is not between being a jerk and being nice. If you limit yourself to that paradigm, you won't ever find an approach that both works for you and doesn't compromise yourself.
Your view is immature - nobody is suggesting you be a jerk. It's just that clearly what is colloquially called 'being nice' produces underwhelming results. IF you look at it as an 'either/or' situation, you won't do well.
For a variety of reasons, women (rightfully) don't like what is commonly called a 'nice' guy because he has divorced himself from his sexual identity. When a male goes out of his way to be 'nice,' he compromises his sexual identity.
That undermines his sex appeal. A woman just won't get excited in a sexual way by a guy who isn't very sexually appealing. That's exactly how it should be - guys who are too nice are consistently rejected by most women because, when compared to their more unambiguously male counterparts, they are recognized as inferior.
That isn't what he said. Read it again... and not just the headings.
I think they are using the wrong word (NICE), Clingy or Possesive is more like it. Most men don't like that either.
I know many women who have married nice men and they seem extremely happy.
Yes. If there's one thing I've learned from Cops is that it's not enough to be a loser, it's not enough to be an a-hole. You have to be both a loser and an a-hole. Then, and only then, will some woman be devoted enough to lean out of a trailer in a tank top and drop her cigarette in panic screaming, "Don't hurt 'im, he didn't mean it!"
I took a long time, but being a nice guy really paid off. My wife's first was a real jerk, treated her like dirt and ended up locked up. I've always treated her like she should be treated. 15 years and still counting, so happy together.
You sir are a man!