Of course it's always the man's fault isn't it?
It would likely be this guys fault.
He sounds like a guy with no depth and a total selfish a$$.
He would likely select someone with as little depth as himself.
Marriage is not something that should be based on love/lust alone but on a whole range of compatability and companionability. Love may sustain you through some wicked things but it is not enough.
If you raise your children properly they should be a credit to their family not a liability. He would probably raise kids that are just as me centered as he is.