no she stays home to take care of my son
Our son was born 11 months after we married. Our entire first years were difficult and stressful. We did not spend much time together as a married couple before it was 24/7 baby. We also did not live together until wedding day. Since I dont work I take care of most anything and that includes garbage. My husband does whatever I ask of him but for the most part I take care of kids (2)and home for him so he can come home from work happy and comfortable. He grew up in a home with only a brother and his mom did everything for them. You each have to sit down and write out good points...
Sure I get resentful sometimes... but I wouldn't trade my job for anything....I try to thank him daily for being successful so I do NOT have to work. Its a great trade.
Listen pal, you said you have an above average job, making more money than most people your age.
Your wife "stays home and takes care of the kid."
There is absolutely NO reason there should be ANY chores to do when you get home from work if she's been in the house all day.
Ignore EVERYTHING she says when she nags you about the garbage and leaving socks on the floor. She doesn't have a leg to stand on. You work full time to pay the bills. She's a babysitter.
But, more than likely, your wife is going to divorce you, she's probably had a lawyer for 2 or 3 months. Get a lawyer, ASAP.
....no she stays home to take care of my son....
So here she was during your three + years of dating, and being with friends, being free, maybe each enjoying the cash from independant jobs, interfacing with people all day long, suddenly she gets pregnant, has a kid.
Now she feels trapped, she can't go out of the house without the kid, she has to ask you for money for anything she needs or wants, you two are probably making ends meet on maybe 60% of what you had during your dating years and early marriage.
So she's crying out for help, to get her out of this miserable existance, and she lashs out at you 'cause you're the only one around to bitch at. She sees that she can get to you as she tears down your self respect, so its working and she re-doubles her effort to get you down.
She needs to find the joy she once had in life. She's got to receive an extra allowance that can be her money to spend on what she wants to, without having to account to you, maybe even have her own bank account so she can feel some independence; you've got to get babysitters so you two can get out of the house, away from the kid, and have some cheap entertainment together - recreate your dating years.
Once you spend time on her, and she reciprocates by seeing you in a different light like she remembered during dating, maybe you two will reconnect.
She knows the word divorce gets to you. Be sure that she knows what that really means, cause it ain't no escape from the unhappy life she feels today. Divorce is hell for her, for the kid, and for you. No-one comes out ahead, and everyone remains poor!
I had two trial marriages, before finally getting lucky for the past 22 years.