Good for you, Rob. I hope things work out for you.
My DH DID have to hit rock bottom (I had him removed from our home and we were living separately for 6 months) before he shaped up. He's been clean and sober for 16 months now and doing well. 9 weeks left to go in court-ordered classes (he went to an out-patient rehab to get sober first, then this) and he's back to being the man I fell in love with 14 years ago.
I was so uninformed! It really is a prgressive "disease" when it gets to a certain point. Personally, I think self-control has a lot to do with it, but once you're that far into it, you do need help to get out of it and your poor brain and body do need to be detoxed, big time.
So, all is well here. I have great faith that he's totally on the mend and this will not be a problem for us in the future. And yes, he wants to live a clean and sober life now. This isn't something I'm imposing on him. He knows what he has to lose for himself; it's not just losing me and his son.
What's a DH? dear husband? if so, I pray for DH's continued resolve to keep his eye on what's really important in life! God bless you, FReeper!