..but any reference to someone's appearance which is implied in cruel words....is not funny.
My personal peeve are people who say.... "What's the matter with you, can't you take a joke"....when, in truth, it is nothing funny, but something usually malicious or cruel.
To me "Don't quit your day job." is commonly used to tell someone they have no ability or talent....that their creation is a failure. It is in my view a nasty put down.
But you have a differing opinion and I will gladly adopt your view on what is funny and what is a put down.
You view of what is a joke allows me to quote you a line I used a few times in Vegas. Occasionally there would be a female heckler when I was playing the Golden Nugget Lounge.I would stop the band, Point to the offending female.. and say...
Trying to be a commedian... Huh??? !!!! pause
Don't quit your night job?
It always broke up the room. I'm sure you would find it equally as funny if I said it to you...