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Posted on 08/05/2004 5:47:31 PM PDT by HairOfTheDog
Eleventh Thread: Wedding Edition: The Hobbit Hole XI - No One Admitted Except on Wedding Business!
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Morning!
I laughed at the comments about my mattress that you all posted last night. *shakes head*
LF - Safe travels and best of luck on the presentation!
2J - we need new chicken pics!
Hair, Ramius and ecurbh - Is T out of his mind or just really stupid? Sheesh! I'm a ~girl~ and I know better than that!
Corin - Sorry to hear that the rule book didn't go Jr's way. I hope he takes this as a learning experience rather than a setback. I would hate to see him get frustrated and give up because of it.
Yes.
Amen, sis...this is my biggest concern. Gosh, I just feel awful for him.
Sigh.... High school football seems like it should have been an easy thing to hope to do. Well.... I hope he can find the motivation to ~really~ try for next year, but to him it must seem such a long uphill battle now.
LOL! Thought so.
Me too. We're just automatically programmed to protect our kids from hurt, but there are just some thing that we can't (and really shouldn't) protect them from.
Wisdom comes from experience. One day, Jr will be telling his son about the time he didn't get to play football because he didn't listen to his dad about good grades. With any luck, his son will listen. ;-)
What I ~want~ to scream at him is "DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOBODY CAUSED THIS BUT YOU?" But I won't. Now is not the time for that. And, since this didn't come from us, I think he'll see that.
And I know the youth leaders at church will reinforce that.
Our job now is to sit down and help him develop a plan. We've been down that road before, but I think he's paying attention now.
~sigh~ Jr. never had that from my dad tho. He died while I was in college. And my step-dad is just weird.
You know, I think normally this would be true. But if Jr. is anything like I was (and I see much that is), this won't be true. It's why I am so upset. I wouldn't have learned anything (I already knew, it just didn't connect)...I would have just been devastated.
It took me years and years and I literally had to grow up enough to identify the trends for me to change.
I still have this personality trait when it comes to the bills. I'll write them out, address 'em, put the stamp on them...never put them in the mail. My intentions are good!
Needless to say, Steve pays the bills. LOL
God bless you, Corin. Add "YOU STUPID IDIOT!" to the end of that and it'll sound real familiar to me.
Good morning, Ruthy!
Well, I'll pray for him and you. That's really hard, not getting to do something you love. It's worse when it's your fault.
Morning all. Gray day here. I've got an hour before I hafta leave... today's going to be hectic.
That's the thing. He's NOT stupid. And that's the point we've been trying to get across to him. He is smart enough that if he would just do the flippin' work he would be on the honor roll.
He doesn't ~like~ the kids who ~do~ make the honor roll, so he doesn't want to be like them. And he has some reason. During the more difficult years in our dealing with the ADHD those kids were sometimes might cruel to him, because they knew they would get a reaction.
But, he's better adjusted and more well rounded socially than any of those kids. It's just the academics that suck.
Thanks Jen.
I gotta go, jedis are getting up, time to start school.
I do wanna say that I'm proud of you for how you are handling this. 20 years from now, it won't really matter that he didn't play football, but how you treat him and respond to this will. He'll never forget it.
Thanks 2J. That helps.
I remember thinking that the best way to get back at kids who'd been mean to me (this was at our homeschool co-op) was to prove I was better than they were, and the only way I could do that was show them I was smarter than they were. Unfortunately there's really no way to tell Jr something like that without it sounding stupid, or manipulative.
I suppose college fears don't make him worry about his gpa? They didn't when I was his age...
They haven't so far. Wife even took him to the Virginia Tech website and showed him that they look for a 3.5 GPA. But it didn't register with him.
That's such a hard age, especially in boys.
Is there anything he's particularly interested in, academically, that you could encourage him to work harder on? It's hard to care about something that bores you, but if his interests were caught, maybe he'd be able to learn some good study habits.
Or, is there any chance of, say next summer, getting him into a community college class? The enviroment there is different and it might give him a clue of what's expected at a college level. Sometimes they have interesting classes and they're often not that hard.
Sneak...
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