lots of suggestions today... here is my story, and I promise to keep it short :)
I have 3 kids, Tricia born 9/6/90, than Jeff, 10/24/91, than Veronica, 2/16/93. See a trend here... I had 3 kids in diapers for 9 months while my husband was an OTR truck driver.
I know that girls are harder. I swear my daughters fight about everything just to get me mad. Now that one is a teen ager, the baby is angry that Tricia gets to do things that she cant do. The fussing at each other drives me nuts!!
My son has Aspergers syndrome also known as pervasive develepental disorder. He has been a handful, but with alot of work, and therapy, and love, he is reasonably normal at this point. he is still antisocial, but he trys so hard, and gets along better with little kids. He is the good kid.
There is a difference with boys and girls. I have neices and nephews, and boys for the most part are easier... so much simpler :) I hear men say they dont understand women, hey, I am a woman, and I dont understand me too.
I am just lucky I have what I have. It was not easy when the kids were small, taking care of everything all by myself, but I survived it, and thought it would get easier... NOT :)
I think it's easier to understand the girls, because I was one ... I can tell what my 13-year-old is thinking, and I know what she's doing in her room before I open the door.
I'm impressed that you managed 3 in diapers by yourself! I have a hard time when I've just got the younger ones at home; fortunately that doesn't happen too often!
How old is your sone with Asbergers? My nephew is 6 and diagnosed PDD Autism, high functioning. He is a lot to handle, but a really sweet boy. He also favors younger children.