Just now catching up from FR being down and our being gone all day today.
We were married in the mid-70's and had folk music at our Mass and I didn't wear a veil, only flowers in my hair. My Granny called it a 'hippy wedding'. LOL!
It was the South, and folks we knew didn't usually go in for the big sit down dinner receptions. We had wedding cake, nuts, and punch in the Church Hall right after the wedding, then anyone who wanted to, came over to Mama's for a 'sit wherever you can find a spot' dinner! My aunts made baked ham, potato salad, baked beans, misc. sweet stuff, etc. We had a blast!
It will be YOUR wedding, Rosie, so do whatever you WANT to do. Just because it has 'always been done that way' doesn't mean you have to do it. You can create some NEW traditions!