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1) Your daughters are worried about you.

Most likely, they have talked to enough people since the death of their Mother, to understand it is typical for the remaining spouse to experience a 'very difficult time' over the Holidays with memories of Holidays Past.

Since I don't know them or you it's difficult to decipher their intentions, but it's my guess they were trying to keep you occupied this week so as not to give you time alone to think about Holidays past.

2) Your kitchen was reorganized because clearly you are not capable to keeping things where they belong. (So, take a day and put them back where you want them,, it's a small price to pay for having loving daughters who care about you.... Get over it ;>) It could be worse. They could move back in with you.)

3) You have the right idea regarding getting your Son in Law on your side. It probably won't be difficult to do if she moves his shaving cream and razor around behind his back.

In short, these girls intend to take their Mother's place in your life as far as taking care of you (and I'm really disappointed in you that you didn't ask the girl who complained about your kitchen floor to give you a demonstration on how it's done).

One girl came right out and told you that you need female influence in your life, so it's pretty clear to me what she thinks it's time for you to do. I will side with you on this one. I happen to believe a lone spouse will seek out companionship from the other sex when they're darned good and ready and no one should be hurried.

I think you could remedy part of these complaints from your daughters by hiring someone to come in and hit the 'high spots' in your home (having someone come in to vacuum the floors, scrub the kitchen & bathroom and do a bit of dusting). Of course this will necessitate YOU going thru the house and removing the clutter from beside the chair in front of the TV and tending to the pile on the kitchen table or beside the phone or whereever it is you keep that little pile of stuff which everyone seems to have BEFORE the housekeeper arrives. Most housekeepers don't do clutter.

Your daughters love you and are concerned about you. Fussing at you is their way of showing it. You haven't mentioned a need to bail them out of jail recently, so count your blessings and redo your cupboards to suit yourself!