Is this a private school ?
He’s YOUR kid. Raise him as YOU see fit. :)
Steer him to baseball. A fiery personality and the ability to corral ground balls will get him a career in MLB. Even a bench player can make millions.
Did he win?
Consider the general inclination of the school toward the CRT/Woke/LGBTQ mandated curriculum that many states have in place and therein will probably be your answer how they are going to respond to the incident.
One thing I learned a long time ago is that schools tend to punish the victims and not the bullies.
Teach him to only get into fights for just reasons and then back him to the hilt if he has done that. He has the unquestionable right to defend himself from harm.
If the school wants to suspend him, remind them of their responsibility for loca parentis through a lawyer’s letter and let them know that they failed their responsibility.
Depends on the circumstances. Is the other kid just a better basketball player?
I don’t know how old you are - I’m 64 - but we both know it is a different world than what we grew up in. Like you, I did not start fights but was taught not to be intimidated by anyone and to stand your ground. From watching videos on YouTube these days, I have observed that most kids today do not know how to fight. Mostly it is round-houses and flailing of arms. Back in the day, yoiu squared off, jabs, uppercuts, and such. As I grew older, I was taught you do what you had to do to win. The majority of those today who talk the violence is bad crap, never got in a fistfight in their lives. You know your son and I am sure by now you have the full story. I suppose the only advice I can give is to prepare him for the worse that can happen. Teach him to box and scrabble, teach him to stand his ground, to defend himself and others. I hope the best for you and yours.
I was in grade school a long time ago.
I think it was 4th grade but maybe 5th
I got in a fight with another kid, I pinned him to the ground and all the other kids at recess wanted me to punch him in the face and bloody his nose, I know I gave him a punch or two.
Anyway for punishment the principle made us hold hands and pick up all the garbage on campus (with supervision)
there was no suspension and I don’t remember parents being called
P.S. the kid was the son of the former state governor
I would suggest you find an Ishin Ryu Karate Dojo for your son.
My kids are both black belts now, and never had an issue in school. Their reputation precedes them, always
What silliness. At that age we were fighting every week.
A few months back..my 6 yr old nephew got into a confrontation with a kid on the playground in school that he thought was much older(The kid had pushed him) so a few days later he saw the same kid on the playground and found out he’s just a really big first grader so he went up to him and said “If you push me again, you’re going down” I still laugh at that to this day.
get him out of the school if there is pushback
It’s a game, not a war!
Teach your son how to protect the ball and block the steal. Also teach him how to steal. It’s all part of the game. And, it’s only a game.
By teaching him to battle, especially in this situation where he appeared to be the instigator of the fight, teach him diplomacy.
That same boy can become a friend and support your son in tough situations in the future.
Be careful teaching him be be an agressor as he will always meet someone tougher and meaner. Diplomacy from a position of strength is the best thing to teach your son.
School justice used to handle these types of issues. Now there is “no tolerance” of any fighting although kids still use the internet to bully others. I had three sons at an elementary school and my youngest son was being bullied but the other kid didn’t know his older brothers were in 5th and 3rd grade so they put a stop to it. Of course the bullying kid got his parents involved.
My middle school there was a fight almost every day.
Treat it as an excellent learning experience for both you and your son.
Some female staff think football is fighting.
The important thing to ask is: “Did he win?”