Posted on 06/28/2019 1:37:33 PM PDT by fhayek
I have a friend. More like a brother really. Larger than life, he was a true a friend, as fine a man and as thoroughly an American as any you will ever find. Hard working, hard drinking (sometimes), he loved his family, and his neighbors.
We had a family business, and Rick worked for us. But he was more, much more than that. He got me out of scrapes at times, and he could rip me a new one, if it was warranted. Overall, he believed in doing an honest days work for an honest day's wages. He worked hard, knew a little about a lot, and boy, could he whip out the words. He had a sense of humor, homespun, that was second to none. He could weave a story that would literally leave you in pain from laughing.
He was a great man, in every sense of the word, and for some reason, he took his life yesterday. If you could see the tears running down my face as I type this, you would get a small sense of my grief.
Godspeed, Rick. You were one of the best.
Thank you for indulging me this vanity...
I’m sorry. That is sad.
My condolences on the loss of your friend.
So so sorry. I lost my very best friend this way a few years ago. Time will help. I had just talked with him that afternoon and we had made plans to meet our other friends for breakfast the next morning. I know the captain of the firehouse that were the first responders and they said definite suicide, but listed it as a gun accident for various reasons. Feeling guilty I did lots of research. No one could have predicted this, not me or even his wife. Took me a year or two to accept that. It is a very complicated subject with some very dark places. I still morn but have accepted. In time, I hope you can too.
Sorry for your loss.
While I urge you to honor your friend and most especially to pray for his soul, even more do I wish you to guard yourself, his family, and your mutual friends. Suicide is CONTAGIOUS and many who do it have had recent exposure by others!!! At the slightest sign of verbalizing the idea, it would be very wise to schedule professional help. Look up and copy the phone number of your local (anti) suicide hotline and keep the number handy. You could not save your friend but maybe you can save another!
God rest your friend.
my daughters (now)husband's twin
took his life and it devastated his family.
They knew that he was fighting several demons but
thought they/he had it under control,
he hid it very well.
What could we have done differently
what signs did we miss.
No one can truly imagine the torment that
leads a person to this tragic and irreversible act.
Suicide is always a sad, difficult and
heartbreaking mystery especially for those that love them.
Eternal rest grant unto Rick and Lester O Lord and
may perpetual light shine upon them
may their souls and all the souls
of the faithfully departed
through the Mercy of God
rest in peace.
Amen
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A similar situation happened with one of my best friends earlier this decade. So sorry to hear about your loss.
How fortunate that you had such a friend. RIP.
Taking ones own life,,,
Never solves the Pain.
It just transfers it.
.
RIP,
Amanda.
I’m sorry you lost a great friend...losing friends is tough. Losing GREAT friends is awful! Take one day at a time and be thankful he was in your life.
“”because her first grandchild was just ONE MONTH old when she gave up””
That is doubly sad as a grandchild can bring happiness like no one has ever experienced before. I never knew what the big deal was until we had our first grandchild...now I understand.
So sorry for your loss. I’ve experienced a similar loss. No matter the reason, friends and loved ones are filled with regrets and questions about what might have been. I pray God’s peace for you and his family.
One thing I’ve noticed getting older is how much biochemistry will affect your moods, and how much alcohol, especially in excess, will affect your chemistry. There have been a number of times when I’ve woken up feeling significantly depressed even after a night of moderate drinking, and I’ve learned to recognize it as a symptom. The way I remove that feeling is eating well that day and working out. In fact, regular exercise keeps me in better spirits than just about anything else.
I mention this because you said your buddy was a drinker. It’s possible that he suffered from similar bouts of this “artificial” depression and didn’t realize it was a physiological thing rather than any reflection of his true situation. Or maybe it was something else all together, who knows. But, if you are anything like me, you’ll be desperately trying to make sense of it for a long time, so any clue might help. Good luck.
“”There is an increase in male suicides, you know, that is going on.””
Switching channels last night when the debate was on, I came to Cuomo and he had a look on his face like he’d lost his last friend...I stuck around for a minute to see what the topic was and it was suicides. All I could think of was WOW- I just saw a stage full of some that should consider it - not just SOME - but ALL!
Not nice I know but I never saw such a group of losers in one place before. Just looking at their demeanor, would anyone want any one of them for a friend even if they didn’t know they were demon-rats? I sure wouldn’t. All I could think of was the ugly hate that was shown on their faces.I couldn’t get my finger on the right button on the remote fast enough when Kamala looked over at Biden and started chewing him out.
Had to laugh today seeing Chris Wallace for a minute analyzing the debate and he totally embellished Kamala’s words to Biden. She said, “I was that little girl” and Wallace said that she SAID, “I was that little girl who was bussed and glad of it” or some such nonsense and that’s NOT AT ALL WHAT SHE SAID. She simply said, “I was that little girl.” That’s where that sentence ended. Anyone hearing her say just those few words would have wondered why she wasn’t finishing the sentence. That’s what I did. So she was “the little girl” - AND?
She may have gone on to say something else about the same subject but by then I was successful enough to get rid of the channel..
Thank you. He had a nephew about our daughter’s age - 8 years - and they played together. She told me she didn’t want to go to the funeral and we respected that. She’d been to lots of family funerals of the older generation but at her young age, she thought something was different and wrong and she wanted to stay at the neighbors so that’s what she did.
Very sorry for your loss. I’ve had this experience in my family and with my own friend. No, you will never understand so don’t even bother to try. May G-d comfort you and all his loved ones.
“”There was a little girl in California who was part of the second class to integrate her public schools and she was bused to school everyday, and that little girl was me,” she said.””
This is what I was referring to...So she was “THAT LITTLE GIRL” - so what? She didn’t say whether that was a good thing or a bad thing. I guess she figured anyone who would be interested in her as a president would be able to figure it out for themselves.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Someone in my family who seemed to have everything going for him took his own life.
There just aren’t any answers. I wish there were.
Man, really sorry about that. When Trump wins this next time, probably a lot of Democrats are going to do the same. Their hatred is unfathomable. I have NEVER seen such raw hatred for what is right.
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