In my experience and observation, you are correct. I’ve known several people in my lifetime who appeared to be completely asexual.
The tragedy for these people is that everyone else in the culture is so consumed with sex that they can’t understand that such a thing could be possible; so they project upon them their own private demons.
However, being ‘asexual’ doesn’t make anyone a saint; and I don’t think Hoover was a saint - I think he overstepped his legitimate bounds in some of his professional actions.
It was a different time, with different concerns, some of them very alarming/confusing.
But today, we have perspective, and can decide to do things in a better way.
Okay, you’re right. J Edgar was just an asexual man. Who was obsessed with the appearance of other men, and had a boyfriend who was also just like him.
I think also Hoover was so dedicated to his job, he was “married” to the FBI. I don’t think there were a lot of women who could have handled being his wife, and he probably figured as much, so he didn’t even try.
Very well put !
And agree!
And you can be asexual and very gay. Tim Gunn is a very interesting man. He sets off all gaydar but in truth he is asexual, though of course his orientation appears male to male. He lives alone and doesn’t date.