Posted on 02/27/2018 7:43:29 PM PST by cazmandeuce
Wow, my 25 year old boy called tonight to talk about asking his girlfriend to marry him. First, I had a feeling this conversation was coming based on what I could tell from what I saw from their relationship over the last year. They have been dating for over a year now, both in their PHD program, and I can tell they are soul mates. Oh my. Second, that's my first son. Is he ready.... My little buddy is thinking about such grown up stuff. Any parents going through the same stuff? Oh, they grow up so fast.......
I have a son that age but he is not at that stage of life to be ready for that! It’s a bit scary. Sounds like they are ready for that phase of life. Wishing him a great response and the couple much happiness and you much pride in him.
For most men.
They just think it’s normal.
God bless your daughter and her husband and family, and you as well. Thank you.
He should ask her first, then ask permission to marry from her parents. Asking them first could easily tick her off, depending on her mindset.
My question to my children has been, “Do you think that the worst days of being married are going to be better than the best days of being single?” Proven to be a very insightful question. BTW, the correct answer is, “Yes.”
I remember the night my Father-In-Law to be and I went out for that “talk” over coffee. He asked me two questions. First, did I love his daughter. Second, can I support his daughter. The answer to the first was yes, with all my heart. The answer to the second was also yes. That was over a half century ago. We will be married 51 years in April. (April 15th to be exact).
My son got married last year and he's a changed man. For the better.
Sounds like you had a bad experience. Sorry and too bad.
But that doesn’t mean the same thing will happen to everyone else.
They sound like two smart, young people who plan to go through life together.
Bitter, as you are, there may even be something good out there for you too.
Lighten up.
Thanks, Mears.
Almost 29 years for me. Those who marry well and hold up their end prosper.
But, there are many who get burned, too.
I wish your son and potential daughter in law all the best.
So sad for you that you feel no young couple has any hope of happiness. Also revealing that you only regret the happiness the man will lose out on, no thought for the young woman at all.
I have not had good result with my marriages and am rather sour on the institution, yet I know that couples can find happiness and a good life within matrimony. There are good people. There is always hope. And even if the marriage fails one day, as my marriage at that age did, now I look back on the years we didn’t have a child yet and the fun we had. No regrets really. He and I are still good friends, helped by the 10,000 miles between us.
Marriage is rough but it can be beautiful when it works.
Dating for over a whole year? Wow. And both with massive debt to pay off once they get out of school? Sounds magical.
Congratulations to you too and thanks for sharing your story.
Hope everything will continue to go well for you, your children and grandchildren.
Nope. Ask her parents first, second is already a “yes” from what I can tell. I think it’s respectful to ask Mom and Dad first. Just the way I did it. I may be wrong, but that’s how I was raised.
Do you think that the worst days of being married are going to be better than the best days of being single?”
I Agree!
You are lucky. I managed twice to pick the wrong man, and no one had my back.
Haha!
Hilarious!
Not these two. Both academic studs in their fields and NO TATS.
I tell both my sons to NEVER marry, period!
Then again, they saw what their mother did and I'm pretty sure that right there convinced them NEVER to do it.
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