The SCOTUS ruling. Whether through judicial activism, legislating from the court, through flat out abuse of power, this is the law of the land now.
Until it is countered by Congress or in some way re-evaluated by the SCOTUS itself, this is something we live with now.
If the federal courts are going to uphold it, there’s not much we can do about it. It is effectively the law.
We don’t have to agree, but it will be implemented against us.
Laws are produced by legislation. The states all have current law in regards to marriage. These current laws still stand. A court "ruling" is only applicable to those whose case is before the court. What you refer to as "effective law" does not exist, as court rulings have variables due to the individual nature of each case being litigated. We need to FORCE those who wish to impose their will on us to do so one case at a time rather than concede to their argument that somehow by magic, the Supreme Court can legislate. We need to act according to OUR argument rather than react to theirs.