4 Huge Mistakes I Made As A Wife (I'm The Ex-Wife Now)

Hunffington Post ^ | 12/29/14 | Sloane Bradshaw

[Kartographer]

Because obviously being a lying, cheating, family abandon-er trumps anything I did to our marriage in the past decade. Right?

Wrong.

I deflected any and all culpability in the failure of my marriage for months, holding on to the picture I painted of myself as the gentle, selfless and long-suffering wife. It wasn't until I found a therapist who called me out on my bullsh*t that I was forced to take a long, hard look at my shortcomings.

It wasn't pretty.

Here's what I now know actually screwed up my marriage. May it serve as a warning to you. Before it's too late.

[tired&retired]

Still enjoy your “Men’s Rules” post from 2014

Thanks for sharing it.

[mewzilla]

I disagree on one point: A crumbling marriage pushes an honorable spouse to counseling, separation, divorce, but NOT adultery. That’s on him, not on her.

[tired&retired]

Funny, here it is almost two years since the last post and you and I are both digging in the same archived thread.

Curious, what led you to this thread?

[Marie Antoinette]

Boom! This is a great list.

If a perimenopausal woman suddenly loses interest in these things, get hormone replacement therapy.

[BRL]

The Ex bears some blame for not calling her out on her behavior and letting her know it won’t stand.

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I agree. I have a good marriage but for a long time I would tell my wife that I was not going to let her sense of anger/entiement run our marriage and that I was not going to live my life out walking on eggshells. I don't quite know how she managed me but we both feel that we have each other adequately trained.

[umgud]

You are welcome.

[NorthMountain]

Yeah, she was a real iron-clad bitch. At least she recognizes it now> ... maybe someone can learn from her mistakes.

[Kudsman]

Bfl

[AFreeBird]

I got a buddy that dated an Asian girl. Trust me, they have their moments.

[mewzilla]

Saw the title. Thought I might learn something worthwhile. I did.

[toast]

That would do it.

[tired&retired]

Same here... Just thought it was odd that two people suddenly post on a thread that was December 2014.

Blessings

[Vigilanteman]

Thanks so much for the public comment. You wouldn’t believe how many private comments this list has generated. Many of them offer equally useful suggestions and additions to this list!