Free Republic
Browse · Search
Bloggers & Personal
Topics · Post Article

Skip to comments.

Asking for advice about depression after losing my job
myself

Posted on 11/02/2012 11:44:36 PM PDT by proud American in Canada

Hi all,

I hesitated for a long time to post this--particularly because our keyboard is so sticky it is difficult to write and post. I was just hoping for some advice. If I posted in the wrong place, I hope the mods will move it.

Julie


TOPICS: Health/Medicine
KEYWORDS: aging; depression; jobloss; sexlife
Navigation: use the links below to view more comments.
first previous 1-2021-4041-6061-80 ... 101-120 next last
To: proud American in Canada
Remember one thing about God.

If you could save yourself then you would have no need of a savoir.

None of us can save ourselves, only God can and will do it.

Yes, I admit, in my inpatients I get mad at God, but I have to always remember that he still loves me and understands me even when I am upset with him.

Go watch what LT. Dan did in the documentary or the making of Forest Gump.

LT. Dan felt cheated and felt that his life was over because his fate was that of his past family members.

So out in the hurricane in the Gulf near Mobile Alabama him and Forest were out on their ship in the hurricane.

He was challenging GOD to sink this ship.... he was yelling to GOD " IT's YOU AND ME ! " .

But in the making of Forest Gump Tom Hanks says:

" but God didn't sink that ship and that's when the healing began "...( Yes, I know, Tom Hanks is a big time liberal ).

Perhaps ? you need a time alone with GOD and pour your heart out to him... even if you get upset with him.


Perhaps ? now is the best time for you to write a book and help others who are experiencing pain ?

Proud American in Canada ?

Please sit back and think on this for a minute.. ok ?
Let me ask you this

What makes you think that Jesus Christ Yeshua does not know about pain and suffering ?

The Bible tells us that we " Fellowship with him in our sufferings "

What makes you think that he does not understand your pain and suffering when you take a look at him up on the cross with his body ripped to shreds, he was beaten into a pulp ?
When you see our loving Savoir up on the cross ? what makes you think he does not know what pain and suffering is ?



Isaiah 53


1. Who hath believed our report? and to whom is the arm of the Lord revealed?

2. For he shall grow up before him as a tender plant, and as a root out of a dry ground: he hath no form nor comeliness; and when we shall see him, there is no beauty that we should desire him.

3. He is despised and rejected of men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief: and we hid as it were our faces from him; he was despised, and we esteemed him not.

4. Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

5. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

6. All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the Lord hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.

7. He was oppressed, and he was afflicted, yet he opened not his mouth: he is brought as a lamb to the slaughter, and as a sheep before her shearers is dumb, so he openeth not his mouth.

8. He was taken from prison and from judgment: and who shall declare his generation? for he was cut off out of the land of the living: for the transgression of my people was he stricken.

9. And he made his grave with the wicked, and with the rich in his death; because he had done no violence, neither was any deceit in his mouth.

10. Yet it pleased the Lord to bruise him; he hath put him to grief: when thou shalt make his soul an offering for sin, he shall see his seed, he shall prolong his days, and the pleasure of the Lord shall prosper in his hand.

11. He shall see of the travail of his soul, and shall be satisfied: by his knowledge shall my righteous servant justify many; for he shall bear their iniquities.

12. Therefore will I divide him a portion with the great, and he shall divide the spoil with the strong; because he hath poured out his soul unto death: and he was numbered with the transgressors; and he bare the sin of many, and made intercession for the transgressors.



For he ( Jesus Christ Yeshua ) was wounded for our transgressions... he was crushed, bruised and it pleased God to crush him for our benefit.

For the punishment, the judgement, the chastisement of OUR peace was upon and placed on Jesus Christ OUR savoir.


The times that GOD and our savoir is the most close to us is in our times of suffering and pain.


41 posted on 11/03/2012 12:57:53 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

There’s a book called Feeling Good by David Burns that I highly recommend. It’s been around awhile and should be available at libraries everywhere.


42 posted on 11/03/2012 12:58:04 AM PDT by Moonman62 (The US has become a government with a country, rather than a country with a government.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

Re the depression: PLEASE see a physician. Depression is a genuine medical condition, and they can help. Untreated, it can kill.


43 posted on 11/03/2012 12:58:04 AM PDT by Slings and Arrows (You can't have IngSoc without an Emmanuel Goldstein.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: goron
" Vote Republican on Tuesday, and you should feel fantastic! "

LOL ! You do not know how profound that really is after the last 4 years we had....
It's like we have been in the fog and funk in the last for years.
In a sense ? I can feel how the Israelis felt when they left Egypt.

44 posted on 11/03/2012 1:00:39 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 9 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

Think of what you’d say to your adult child if they were going through what’s happening to you. Then say those same things to yourself.


45 posted on 11/03/2012 1:03:00 AM PDT by zencycler
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada
One day soon ? you will discover how close God really was to you in your times of pain and suffering.

When you cry and cry and can't cry no more ? then ? the only thing you can do is laugh.
What else is there ? need to stir up your soul to even make one day to laugh and let it go.... place your burden in the hands of our savoir.

In the car with your husband out in the country side sing the song : WHAT A FRIEND WE HAVE IN JESUS.... and lift your burdens to him...


46 posted on 11/03/2012 1:04:14 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada
I've gone from making $70K/yr to 35K/yr + some overtime. It took almost 2 years to find job that started me out at 1/3 what I used to make but I love the job.

Last year a friend of 25 years killed himself over his job loss. Don't let depression take over, trust the Lord.

47 posted on 11/03/2012 1:05:19 AM PDT by DungeonMaster (If a man will not work, then neither shall he eat.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

I’ve been where you are, and there are no easy answers. I won’t suggest anything spiritual because that’s a personal thing. One thing that has helped me in the past, and still helps is to find good things to focus on, happy things.
Sometimes I jump on Facebook and enjoy cute baby pics, or cute puppy pics, or whatever, and it does help. I also enjoy seeing my old high school friends pics, and their families. My life isn’t “happy” and may not ever be again, and I’m fine with that. I’ll just do my best, every day I can, and I’ll try to make others happy, and that’s enough, at least for me.
Depression is no game, and it’s not fun, but it doesn’t have to destroy your life. Talk to your hubby, talk to a trusted friend or Pastor, and go from there. You are educated, which helps, you have a family, and those are blessings.
Take little steps and eventually you’ll find yourself in a better place.
I’ll pray for you...
Kevin


48 posted on 11/03/2012 1:06:45 AM PDT by Sporke (USS Iowa BB-61)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada
Just a couple of things. I'm almost 60, so if you're “old” at 50, I'm a Fossil.

I still remember what my dear Mother told me as a child, “There is always someone better off than you and there is always someone worse off than you”.

It is human nature to focus on the negatives in our lives while taking for granted the positives. You have Family, many people are alone. You have a home, many people are homeless. You have an education, many people are ignorant (Obama supporters for example). You have a love of writing, many people have no imagination or skill in expressing their thoughts on paper.

I could go on, but you are looking for answers. I am Married, my Wife deals with Depression, which means I deal with her Depression as well. From my experience, I would suggest that you deal with that situation sooner than later. You stated that you are on some Medications. It may be time to get reevaluated to see if the Medications are still effective.

My Wife has done that and has shown some improvement. As we get older, our Metabolism changes and Drugs that helped at one time become ineffective. It happened with my Blood Pressure Meds, and it happened with my Wife's Drug Therapy.

As far as the Financial situation, step away and look at your household Budget as if you were helping someone else with their situation. You have to be objective, looking at what is necessary versus what is a choice. When all else fails, listen to Dave Ramsey.

Well, that's all I can think of right now. Just something to chew on. I have been dealing with Leukemia for the past seven years and I am halfway to what my Oncologist suggested would be my expected demise.

I have two choices, I can wake up every day and be upset and depressed, Xing out the days on the Calendar in my countdown to doom, or I can wake up every day and think how lucky I am to be able to see, hear, smell, taste, feel and interact with others.

In fact, I am lucky because you decided to Post something on Free Republic and I have a chance to respond and share some of my experiences that may, or may not, lift your spirits. You are lucky because you just shared your situation with people you will probably never meet in person but who care enough about you to reply. You are never alone when you're a FReeper. We are Family, whether we agree or not. I'm not a Religious person, but rest assured you are in my Prayers.

As they say, this too will pass. The worst that could happen is never the worst that can happen. Your Blessings outweigh your problems, you just have to open your eyes wide enough to see it. God Bless you and your Family.

49 posted on 11/03/2012 1:08:08 AM PDT by Kickass Conservative (How do you insult an Obama Voter? Call them an Obama Voter.)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

Remember ? when they try to hit us when we are at our weakest or where we are at our weakest point ? that’s when and where we are strongest.


50 posted on 11/03/2012 1:10:34 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Casie
Yes.... a group hug for Julie... * HUGS *

You said it right.. many of us feel overwhelmed..

One point in my life at my lowest when my father died I actually heard God's audible voice speak to me even when I was upset and angry at God... but, just like how God didn't sink the ship LT. DAN and Forest Gump was on even after LT. DAN challenged GOD to sink their ship, I found out how Merciful and Gracious God really is.

51 posted on 11/03/2012 1:22:42 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 18 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

The world is changing and many of us are in the same boat you are. That doesn’t help your situation, but it does help with the depression and guilt.You just have to keep on keeping on until the situation slowly changes, just get over the guilt.
Regarding lack of energy, cut out all bread and pasta. Helped for me and my family.


52 posted on 11/03/2012 1:24:25 AM PDT by DaxtonBrown (http://www.futurnamics.com/reid.php)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

Julie, are you getting enough sunlight? I don’t want to over-simply things, but experience has led me to believe access to sunlight is a genuine factor relating to despondence.

You’re up north. When I lived in cloudy Vermont, a mere silver lining was enough to lift my spirit. During a two-year period when I worked at night, I was mildly depressed and it seemed like goblins were hanging from the street lamps. Thus, I bought a full-spectrum light which, honestly, seemed to help. Well worth the money.

These days, I work at home and inside, so access to sunlight is still an issue. I take 2,000 units of vitamin D each day. Please consider these three ideas, because we want you feeling good. Naturally there’s more to life then this, but it’s a start.

Couple of more thoughts: I enjoyed “The Secret” DVD. And it’s good to work to accomplish things, even small things. God bless you.


53 posted on 11/03/2012 1:26:48 AM PDT by Gilderite
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Smokin' Joe
" chronicle the hardships "

There you go Smoking Joe... the title to Julie's new book she's going to write.... isn't that right Julie hint hint wink wink ?

CHRONICLES OF HARDSHIPS AND THE LAUGHTER THEREAFTER....

How you like it Julie ?
54 posted on 11/03/2012 1:28:18 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 23 | View Replies]

To: All

I checked one last time, but can’t respond now because of the keyboard—and I have photos to take tomorrow a.m. Thank you all for your advice and caring! I’ll never forget it. :) J.


55 posted on 11/03/2012 1:28:21 AM PDT by proud American in Canada
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada
It's been said that misery loves company, so if it's any help at all you're far from alone in facing financial challenges. There are a lot of FReepers going through monetary problems due to the economic situation. Some are without a job completely and facing the end of unemployment assistance. So, as disappointing and disheartening as the reduced income may be, at least it's something.

Find the energy and motivation to begin making some changes. One step at a time so you don't feel overwhelmed. Cut expenses aggressively, sell things you no longer need or can no longer afford. That's one area.

The other area is yourself. Break your routine, get out in the world, get some sun, the light helps. Exercise helps, even though that's the last thing you probably feel like doing right now. It will increase your energy level and help your mood, just find a way to get over the hump of being tired and sleeping so much. Yes, you sound depressed. Receding into it will only make it worse. Writing this vanity on FR is a first step. You recognize it and have done something about it, however minor.

Look for additional opportunities to write, maybe online. If you're able you can set up a blog, vent your frustrations and write about politics, your life challenges, your nephew's cancer, and if you are able to do so compellingly enough to attract a following, you can make money on your own via Google AdSense, which places ads on your blog and pays you on the basis of clickthrough.

Lastly, I do not know your religious orientation but sincere, humble prayer and lifting your burden up to God will bring you some peace and clarity. Remember to be thankful for what you do have, focus upon that and recognize the source of it in gratitude. Ask that He intervene and lead you to a means of helping support your family, nothing fancy, just sufficient to your needs. Stick with it. Be open to answers that may not exactly be what you were expecting.

You'll get through this. It'll be OK.

56 posted on 11/03/2012 1:29:07 AM PDT by RegulatorCountry
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: Smokin' Joe
Hey Joe ? do you think ?
Adding a recipe in her new book: 101 ways in how to make Shoe Leather Soup and Old Stinky Socks stew appetizing ? No ? at least I tried.... I didn't think it would work.
57 posted on 11/03/2012 1:35:29 AM PDT by American Constitutionalist
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 23 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada
Julie, first, count your blessings. Think of all you have; a wonderful husband and children- your health.

Next, cut back on your living expenses.

You will find another job.

If your depression doesn't lift soon, see a doctor. It's not a disgrace to be depressed- and it can be treated.

Good luck to you

58 posted on 11/03/2012 1:35:54 AM PDT by patriot08 (TEXAS GAL- born and bred and proud of it!)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

When this year started I was depressed because of financial, legal and health problems. However, in the thick of it I never felt as close to God as I did then. That may sound counter intuitive but I literally felt every step I took was on a path set by our Heavenly Father.

Looking back, I see I was divinely driven with the attitude that when the going gets tough the tough get going. I got legal/medical help and financial opportunity was found and even has wild growth potential. I have faith that as long as I keep moving along my God given path things will at least now remain stable. I remarked just yesterday what a difference a year makes!

Start your year right now. Put faith in God, in that way remain positive and walk his path to a better life.


59 posted on 11/03/2012 1:37:23 AM PDT by Berlin_Freeper (WINNING IS EVERYTHING!)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]

To: proud American in Canada

You may think this is a simple answer, but try it it works.....privately speak to the Lord.....

Bring your troubles to Him, and leave them with Him and go about your life doing what you can....


60 posted on 11/03/2012 1:40:31 AM PDT by The Wizard (Madam President is my President now and in the future)
[ Post Reply | Private Reply | To 1 | View Replies]


Navigation: use the links below to view more comments.
first previous 1-2021-4041-6061-80 ... 101-120 next last

Disclaimer: Opinions posted on Free Republic are those of the individual posters and do not necessarily represent the opinion of Free Republic or its management. All materials posted herein are protected by copyright law and the exemption for fair use of copyrighted works.

Free Republic
Browse · Search
Bloggers & Personal
Topics · Post Article

FreeRepublic, LLC, PO BOX 9771, FRESNO, CA 93794
FreeRepublic.com is powered by software copyright 2000-2008 John Robinson