Posted on 09/19/2011 11:09:45 PM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
Have you noticed that lots of women expect men to be their heroes? It's a sexual turn on, as we see in the movies, for a man to come to the aid of a woman.
For example, a male hero in the movies may verbally slam someone to defend a woman's honor. Or, he may sword fight another man for her affection.
In real life, men may attempt similar things as well. After a time, though, men can get tired. They're only human.
By the time a man is 40 or 50, he's done a lot of psychological battling for work issues, political issues and family concerns.
It's refreshing for a strong woman to maturely step up and assist a man who's overly stressed. It's great when a woman is not too needy herself.
Women need empowerment in the right ways to develop inner strength, though. When men give women respect and encouragement, it helps arm women with the right tools.
"My wife doesn't dump all her problems on me," says a doctor we'll call John. "She's so efficient and strong, I count her as my hero."
John has always encouraged his wife to take classes, succeed in her job role and serve on government committees in their large city.
"I know men who try to hold their wives back," says John. "It's shocking how some men treat their wives in private."
A psychologist we'll call Anthony says men who feel badly about themselves will hurt women.....
(Excerpt) Read more at seattletimes.nwsource.com ...
women are stonger than men. and I say that as a guy. As a father who watched child birth in progress. but its not just child birth, women are stronger overall
Then there are those of us men who have rescued women one to many times just to see them ride off into the sunset with a thug or creep. And when that relationship inevitably goes into the dumps, who do they call? Yup, us men who saved them before. Of course, at that point, they’re such a wreck that they bring nothing to the table but pain and dependency.
So after a few years or decades of that, we opt out. We look for women who don’t need saving. Or if they do, ones who might actually appreciate a hero. Problem is they are few and far between in our degraded “culture.”
Harsh? Yup. Reality often is...
Wow. I wonder what Ike Turner would say about that piece.
Sure, women give birth. However, if it had been up to them, we’d be hanging curtains in the caves and never have left them to see what’s out there. :)
Healthy men and women are very strong, but different. What many men don’t realize, because our society has conditioned them not to realize it, is that its possible to be that man that is both warrior and knight, but also be appreciative of the fine arts and elegant life.
Unfortunately, men are trained for either strength or culture, when it should be both.
You sound like one of the good guys. Don’t give up - the one for you is out there.
I am distrustful of men who have the “Hero Complex”. They tend to be controlling and at the same time incredibly needy of emotional support.
Everyone occasionally needs help and I’m no exception. When that need arises, I usually turn to family but most of the time I do just fine. Asking for help doesn’t mean I’m seeking a life partner or someone for sex.
I advise my friends who want to marry, look for someone who if they were the same sex, would be a best friend.
I’m going to call you on that. :)
There isn’t always a person for everybody, at least in this life. If there is, and you’re not a male who is 6 feet and a good build, there is a very good chance that you won’t live long enough to find her. That’s the reality for many of us males.
However, he should try and enjoy life as is and make many friends not worry so much about that.
Being the nice guy has done squat for me.
God created. Men and women to compliment each other. When men act like dicks with legs, and women as whores, it throws all sorts of things out of whack.
I’m 60-years old and stopped looking when I was 30. Never been married, no children. People make choices in their lives and I chose to remain single, but then not everyone wants to be single their whole life.
Not everybody does and most that do remain single didn’t really have much say in the matter.
However, the best thing a perpetually single person cvan do for themselves is focus on enjoying life and developing their talents.
They’ll make themselves a more interesting person if somebody does come along. If the single person remains single, they’ll enjoy life more regardless.
You’re quite right; a lot of nice people don’t want to lower their standards and so they remain single. Often, the standards are not unreasonable ones when you look at the mess people are these days.
Poeple so easily forget that while knights jousted and also waged war, they also often knew multiple languages and knew how to skillfully play wonderful instruments and compose verse. Same wiht women; while in Southern culture women were brought up to be kind, courteous, and sociable, they were also brought up to run massive households and that was no small thing.
Baloney.
Did you ever see that Seinfeld where some beautiful girl fell for George because she thought he was a thug and a trouble maker? So George tries to play that role, but without success.
>> Baloney.
Meow, snap!
My hubby was the nice guy and that attracted me.... for 41 years in October marks the day we met!!! Still attracted to my guy - always and forever.
My hubby was the nice guy and that attracted me.... for 41 years in October marks the day we met!!! Still attracted to my guy - always and forever.
Geez... I just knew that was worth posting twice!
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