Nope. What I understand from my husband is how screwed up his parents were.
You so didn’t get the point. Not surprising.
He became a conservative DESPITE OR IN SPITE OF his looney parents. His college had nothing to do with it.
Nice you took quotes from what I said about a couple of my brothers and interpersed them with the comments about my husband’s wacky evangelical upbringing.
Nah, all it says it what I already knew about you.
This is a much more clear.
We told our kids, when the oldest was in 9th grade that they'd better start studying hard, because they were either going to have to get scholarships, or loans, to pay for college. We'd sent them to Catholic school from grade 1, and were anticipating four years of high school as well, which was a considerable 'investment' in their futures. We explained that since college was THEIR investment in their own futures, we expected them to largely foot the bill. We'd see what happened to too many friends whose parents had paid the their tuition to Ivy League or other private colleges, and the kids didn't take their education seriously. This left the parents in huge debt, and the kids still not particularly well educated. We'd either gotten loans or scholarships for our college educations, so we didn't waste time or effort. We told our kids that we wanted some money to retire on, and not be living in poverty while doing so, so we weren't going into debt for THEIR college educations.
They all understood, but also understood that if they truly needed some extra money from time to time, we'd help them out. They worked summers, and sometimes had part-time jobs during the school year, though we didn't encourage that because we wanted them to concentrate on their studies. They've all turned out to be thrifty people, and have even told us they were glad that we didn't hound them about their grades, and scholarships all through school. We reminded them once or twice, and that was it. They took it from there.