Posted on 05/04/2008 10:33:59 AM PDT by Positive
Well the last 36 hours of my life have been, to put it mildly, surreal.
You see I'm a 60 year old guy who has been married twice for a combined total of 27 year. I had two children with each wife. My son with my first wife drowned at a youung age and the psychological damage to his mother was a major factor in the the end of that marriage.
Well to make a long story short my 29 year old daughter from the first marriage called me yesterday. We had not spoken for a longer that average interval, the conversation lasted almost two hours. At that point I said that I had some matters to deal with so we would have to talk again soon. She said ok, but she had something important we needed to talk about...which raised some concerns since during a two hour conversation she hadn't brought this "important" matter up. So I said, no no let's talk about it now.
Well through a convoluted internet set of events, her mother had discovered that someone was looking for her dad and it seemed that he was probably me...
My 29 year old has been in email correspondance with this lady for the last month and finally was satisfied that it was time for me to made aware of the situation.
So, a 7 hour long conversation later I learned that I am the proud father of a 40 years young daugher and the granddad of two hansome young boys ages 10 and 8. My other daughters and my 17 year old son have a new sibling and are aunts and uncle...
I am having a surrealisticly happy Sunday morning...
“..I know that this is a kind of rare happening.”
Rare and as pure as God’s Love.
Best of luck with your newfound life. May it bring you a rebirth that fills your heart with the goodness of why it is so wonderful to be alive.
I have a woman friend that brought her adopted brother to another country far away. He was to meet his mother. Then by a miracle he also found his father. And it was joy all around.
I truly wish you the best.
Your right... your experience is rare.
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I believe FR was having a problem this afternoon! Some of my posts disappeared into oblivionland.
Others were having trouble too. I hope it is fixed.
A topic in a 1962 college course of mine asked us, "What will the effects of The Pill be on society?"
My theory was that labor unions would go bust.
I had no idea that within the thirty years that followed, that it meant "Press 2 for English".
I still have no idea who my father is ... grandma won't talk about it ... she thinks it's her fault for having my mother. My mother won't talk about it ... she's pathological and probably believes the lies she's told. Stepdad won't talk about it ... he's terrified of his wife (my mom). I found out from his bother ... but they don't know the whole story.
The knowledge has cleared up a lot of mysteries for me ... but has left the biggest one ... who is my dad? I am so happy for you that you have your daughter. I'm so glad you accepted her so completely ... it gives me hope.
Don't give up, hopefully he is alive, well and a good guy.
The internet was the final difference in our case. There was no WWW when she started. Of course she actually had some help from her Mom and you may not until she gets sick and tired of you pestering her.
There are websites dedicated to people finding people and you have some clues you can use...your date of birth, where you would have been conceived, you mom's first name and her description at the time, her occupation at the time etc.
Keep in mind that old saying though, be careful what you wish for, finding out could be worse than not knowing...I'm not being cynical...just be braced. I mean maybe he's Bill Klinton!
“I mean maybe he’s Bill Klinton!”
Gee...That’d really make lkco one in a million. lol
But seriously, lkco you will be in my prayers.
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