Posted on 02/16/2006 10:01:20 AM PST by klossg
One Night Stranded Should Tell Woman Something
DEAR SUSAN: I am 45 and soon to be divorced. I raised three children, who are now grown and married. My husband and I grew apart in the last years of the marriage, and I've been celibate for two years. Lately, though, I've been feeling very alive and sensual.
Recently, I asked a wonderful single man I know if he'd consider a few hours of "pleasure," no strings attached. He said he would, but then he changed his mind. He didn't give a reason. How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?
- Desperate to Feel Like a Woman. Long Island, N.Y.
DEAR DESPERATE: You don't. Take a cue from this wonderful man and his second thoughts and stop and think this through. This is a delicate phase you're going through, a mixture of all sorts of feelings and moods, a time for clear thinking. Your idea of going from man to man, asking for sex, shows me anything but. The next time you're feeling supersensual, let a cold shower remind you that a period of celibacy can be extremely creative and fulfilling, and that channeling your libido into self-expression can make you feel more of a woman than any amount of loveless sex. Give it a try. The offer comes with no strings.
Write to Susan Deitz c/o DivorceInteractive.com, 94 Second Street, Mineola, N.Y. 11501. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope.
"Attend a church. Lots of good strong men there that would love to treat you like a lady."
And lots who will take you to dinner before hitting on you.
Yeah, well in case she doesn't take me up on my offer, I'd better get back to it. FReeping is more fun that laundry, but I hate it when my kids show up at church wearing old halloween costumes and footie pajamas.
Saw this in November. Absolutely hysterical! Good advice Chanti!
Or... he is a decent man not wanting to take advantage of a woman in an emotional spot.
Or.... he realizes that 'no strings attached' isn't always true.
get back to work, woman!
Yep.
I think Laz is asleep.
Or has already taken her up on her offer.
Not according to my dictionary ... actually, just the opposite in fact.
Or... he suddenly remembered the "no strings attached" Glenn Close character in "Fatal Attraction."
It really is funny. Saw it with some girlfriends, then took my theater-loving husband to another showing. He was one of a handful of men and was absolutely miserable! I'd suggest leaving the guys at home.
Most of the men I know in church are either
a. Jailbait.
b. Three days older than dirt.
c. Married.
I'm not any of those things....then again you don't know me. And you might consider 36 older than dirt, I don't know.
Note to Mikey:
From dictionary.com
chaste:
Morally pure in thought or conduct; decent and modest.
1. Not having experienced sexual intercourse; virginal.
2. Abstaining from unlawful sexual intercourse.
3. Abstaining from all sexual intercourse; celibate.
4. Pure or simple in design or style; austere.
cel·i·bate
n.
1. One who abstains from sexual intercourse, especially by reason of religious vows.
2. One who is unmarried.
adj.
1. Abstaining from sexual intercourse, especially by reason of religious vows.
2. Unmarried; unwed.
Depends on which dictionary you use.
Or at least a coffee date
Hitachi lasts forever.
I like the advice Susan Deitz gave her, but I wish she would have also included an encouragement to turn her new-found "aliveness" and "sensuousness" toward renewing the love between her husband and her. After all, I imagine when she and her husband married their vows includes words to the effect of "for better or for worse" and "until death do we part."
Nope,
You're jailbait.
(In many trailer parks across America, I could be your Mama).
How funny is it that ALL of us thought to ping Laz!
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