One Night Stranded Should Tell Woman Something

Divorce Interactive ^ | THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 9, 2006 | Susan Deitz

[klossg]

One Night Stranded Should Tell Woman Something

DEAR SUSAN: I am 45 and soon to be divorced. I raised three children, who are now grown and married. My husband and I grew apart in the last years of the marriage, and I've been celibate for two years. Lately, though, I've been feeling very alive and sensual.

Recently, I asked a wonderful single man I know if he'd consider a few hours of "pleasure," no strings attached. He said he would, but then he changed his mind. He didn't give a reason. How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?

- Desperate to Feel Like a Woman. Long Island, N.Y.

DEAR DESPERATE: You don't. Take a cue from this wonderful man and his second thoughts and stop and think this through. This is a delicate phase you're going through, a mixture of all sorts of feelings and moods, a time for clear thinking. Your idea of going from man to man, asking for sex, shows me anything but. The next time you're feeling supersensual, let a cold shower remind you that a period of celibacy can be extremely creative and fulfilling, and that channeling your libido into self-expression can make you feel more of a woman than any amount of loveless sex. Give it a try. The offer comes with no strings.

Write to Susan Deitz c/o DivorceInteractive.com, 94 Second Street, Mineola, N.Y. 11501. She will answer all letters that come with a self-addressed, stamped envelope.

[najida]

Yeah,
Until then I'm dating Ed Hitachi.

[peacebaby]

well, then, you KNOW where Atlanta is... .

[derllak]

Ouch! You're just rotten! :P
Maybe I'm an old fashioned idiot, but I could never "give it" to just anybody. What a slut! And I'd rather be an idiot than a slut!

[najida]

Yeah,
Atlanta is better for sure (now why did I leave?....Oh, yeah, I was married...oh well).

[Rebelbase]

A lady friend of mine visited the largest mega church in my town. They direct all newbies to a greeting room for coffee/chat if they arrive early enough for service. She got hit on three times before church started.

[peacebaby]

no kidding? where in Atlanta?

[Mikey_1962]

SEEMS to have displaced; not to us who studied Latin.

also

Why then do priests take vows of celibacy and chastity?

[Mikey_1962]

Why then do priests take vows of celibacy and chastity?

[najida]

Norcross Tucker, off of Jimmy Carter.

My Brother lives in Woodstock.

[peacebaby]

I'm in martins landing... .

[MadCharity]

How bout a pic of this rejected lady? Maybe that will give us clues as to the rejection.

And another thing...Susan Dietz obviously hasn't gotten any in a while and has been rejected way too many times and is very bitter about it too....

[najida]

OK!
Sorta the Roswell- Alpharetti ;) area.

[MadCharity]

Dear Susan...

[MadCharity]

I wish she would have also included an encouragement to turn her new-found "aliveness" and "sensuousness" toward renewing the love between her husband and her.

BEST ANSWER YET!!!

[fr_freak]

Recently, I asked a wonderful single man I know if he'd consider a few hours of "pleasure," no strings attached. He said he would, but then he changed his mind. He didn't give a reason.

I'm thinking the tequila buzz wore off, and suddenly 350lbs and a mustache didn't seem quite as attractive.

[Deaf Smith]

"Or... he is a..."

94 post and no one considered that she is still married. Messing with married women is not the safest activity to assure a long life.

As for you other ladies...have you tried beer? Several women over the years have used this ploy on me. "Come to my place to watch a movie/football/baseball?...got beer."

Worked every time on me.

[klossg]

Good to see that the guy actually understood that she was worth more than just a quick hot one. That she has value more than just as a goo trap. (sorry about the harsh words but every person is way more than that).

Men follow women and will do anything to get them. When women reduce sex to just "a hot one," then men and women cannot meet. I'd rather stand and not get any, then get 1000 free ones like this woman offered. I'd feel like I was stealing. Call me a wuss, but a real woman makes me come up to her level. Or else, I should just have sex with another horny man.

Women have so much to offer and when their standards go down, all standards go down. Men follow. They act like leaders but those that pursue are followers. When women have had enough of being used, men will respect that and move their standards higher. Until then, no one really enjoys this. We just get caught up in it and wonder what is missing.

[Maximus of Texas]

"How do I ask another man in a way that won't get me rejected again?"

The answer to that is simply... "Hey, Max! Come here!"

[Chanticleer]

Agreed!

[peacebaby]

why am I not surprised by your response?

But we know where your heart is... .