[Harmless Teddy Bear]

However, I am deeply involved in my church, and I know that it would not be a secret for very long.

Ok now there is the problem. You may not mean it that way but you are saying that your pride in having a perfect facade is more important then your marriage.

Your wife and kids are less important then other people opinion. And you can bet that they know it.

Plus I live in a small community.

Then drive somewhere else.

[ScubieNuc]

Good point.