There are no safe-sex alternatives. Condoms fail some 10% to 15% of the time, and provide no barrier to many viral sexual diseases. Kids have been taught lies about safe-sex for many a year. The explosion of VD (things like drug-resistant, untreatable gonorrhea, herpes, papillomavirus (which causes cancer)) is an indication of that. And then, or course, there's the abortion thing. Kids and adults who think one can simply get an abortion (murder) when safe-sex doesn't work, and that there will be no psychological and long lasting consequences are horribly fooling themselves.
Nothing is 100% safe but a hand job is safer than oral sex, oral sex is safer than intercourse, and intercourse with a condom is safer than unprotected intercourse.
I disagree with you. Abstinence!
There is always Dr. Elders recommendation: spankin' the monkey!
The point is: Teenagers will have sex. It is a fact. It is better that they do so with a condom and learn how to properly use one than to be told that sex is evil until you're married. Abstinence is chosen by many. As is the choice to engage in sexual relations before marriage. I respect each belief and do not value one over the other. If you irresponsibly engage in sex, then you're an idiot. That is your problem. But both sides should be taught.