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Does 'done the rounds' mean she's had 2 other sex partners, 10 other partners, 1000 other partners? If she was married and her husband beat her so she divorced, is she a slut for having been married to him? Does that automatically make her 'bargain basement' material?

Do the same rules apply to men? Is a man who's had 2 sexual partners a 'bargain basement' groom?

Fair question. For me, as a religious guy, premarital sex is not a good thing. I have not been perfect in this area, though I have tried (hard) to be. Where I strayed, out of my selfishness, I hurt the women involved, and I regret that deeply. Had I gotten a woman pregnant by accident before marriage, I would never have considered abortion (for me it's murder) and I would have had to raise a child outside of marriage or in a marriage with a woman I wouldn't have chosen as my wife (which would be undoubtedly harmful to my kids). And (I know many will have trouble believing this), I also believe I hurt myself as well by not staying chaste. Why? Because I couldn't say to my wife that I had had the raw strength to save myself for her. In the same way, with regard to women, I do place a high value on virginity for a wife. But I would have considered marrying a woman who, like me, had tried sincerely to stay chaste and pure, but had failed. However, I would not have wanted to marry a woman who essentially went to bed with every man she got to know and dated (the way most people do today). In my mind, such women don't see sex as something special to be preserved and cherished in marriage - but rather as just another activity. If a woman is willing to give it up for all her past dates, it doesn't mean so much anymore in marriage. It loses its specialness and spiritual beauty in marriage. And it becomes divorced from its true design - to create new and wonderful and beautiful human life on this Earth. In short, women (and men) who sleep around devalue sex and end up with less in the end, I think. Again, my life's experience (in observing other people) has corroborated very strongly my religious beliefs. I do believe in God, and I see the wisdom of His rules.