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Fair question. For me, as a religious guy, premarital sex is not a good thing. I have not been perfect in this area, though I have tried (hard) to be. Where I strayed, out of my selfishness, I hurt the women involved, and I regret that deeply. Had I gotten a woman pregnant by accident before marriage, I would never have considered abortion (for me it's murder) and I would have had to raise a child outside of marriage or in a marriage with a woman I wouldn't have chosen as my wife (which would be undoubtedly harmful to my kids). And (I know many will have trouble believing this), I also believe I hurt myself as well by not staying chaste. Why? Because I couldn't say to my wife that I had had the raw strength to save myself for her. In the same way, with regard to women, I do place a high value on virginity for a wife. But I would have considered marrying a woman who, like me, had tried sincerely to stay chaste and pure, but had failed. However, I would not have wanted to marry a woman who essentially went to bed with every man she got to know and dated (the way most people do today). In my mind, such women don't see sex as something special to be preserved and cherished in marriage - but rather as just another activity. If a woman is willing to give it up for all her past dates, it doesn't mean so much anymore in marriage. It loses its specialness and spiritual beauty in marriage. And it becomes divorced from its true design - to create new and wonderful and beautiful human life on this Earth. In short, women (and men) who sleep around devalue sex and end up with less in the end, I think. Again, my life's experience (in observing other people) has corroborated very strongly my religious beliefs. I do believe in God, and I see the wisdom of His rules.

Thank you for your well thought out answer. We aren't that far apart in our end result after all even if we reach it by different methods.

Generally speaking, sexual promiscuity [in a man or woman] indicates a lack of self respect and esteem, which is the primary reason I would not be interested in a relationship with an overly promiscuous woman. That and the fact that there is little point in casual sex considering that self gratification feels [at least physically] almost identical to gratification with a partner. Weighing that against the risks of stds and pregnancies that will most likely bring children into the world who will ultimately have fragmented families, makes promiscuity an unwise choice.

I'm not spirtual so that doesn't enter my equation.