A bad boy shows up
Posted on 04/12/2023 1:50:28 PM PDT by nickcarraway
The term toxic masculinity is a hot topic these days. But what are considered red flags in a guy?
In a video posted on TikTok on March 29, user and YouTuber AimRun took to the streets to find out what Singaporean women had to say on the issue.
One woman claimed that there are "many" toxic men in Singapore.
When asked why girls date guys who exhibit toxic masculinity, she revealed that she always dates bad guys.
"I have dated a nice guy before, but it's very boring," she quipped.
In an expanded YouTube version of the video, the woman then went on to identify some traits of toxic masculinity.
Using social media personality Andrew Tate as a reference, some of these qualities according to her were "overprotective", "too dominant" and not respecting and objectifying women.
At the same time, she also pointed out characteristics of toxic femininity, such as women "taking advantage of men" when they "expect men to provide but they don't really offer anything".
Nonetheless, the woman's hot take on dating 'boring' nice guys seems to have triggered netizens, mostly made up of men, in the comments section.
One user said never to change yourself for someone.
Another mentioned her comment is a red flag.
Overall, the commenters seem to disagree with the woman's opinion.
In another TikTok video by AimRun, also taken from the same interview, another interviewee shared her two cents when asked about her advice for men practicing toxic masculinity.
"It's okay to talk about your feelings," she mentioned.
She further explained how it's very important for guys to show their emotions. "I think it's very attractive when a guy knows how to express his feelings," she added.
To the girls who don't like guys being vulnerable, she replied that dismissing a guy's emotions is considered toxic behaviour.
Many netizens applauded her thoughts in the comments section.
On the other hand, some were doubtful of her, saying "it's a trap".
We all can agree finding the right one in this day and age can be like finding a needle in a haystack.
Just last month, Indonesian-Chinese TikTok user Cassie shared differences between dating Singaporean and Indonesian men.
The overarching difference: Singaporean guys are "more practical", whereas Indonesians put in more effort in the dating phase of a relationship.
Bolstering her case of Indonesians being "more providing", Cassie shares how the practice of splitting bills while on a date is "not the way to go" in Indonesia.
"Whereas here [in Singapore], it is quite normal," she stated.
She's quick to point out though that not all Singaporean guys opt to go Dutch while on a date, admitting that she's been on dates with local men who have paid for everything.
And as expected, not everyone agreed with her observations. Some felt she had simply met the wrong guys.
However, Cassie made sure to put in a disclaimer that her conclusions are "not statistically accurate" as they are "not tested on [the] full population".
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So this is why Laz get’s all the girls...
So it’s more exciting if you date a guy who beats the crap out of you once a month?
The pleasures of sin for a season.
As a certifiable Nice Guy, I can attest to at least some of the other gender who friendzoned me and ran off with the jerk. It is part of the price one pays for actually doing what women say they appreciate being done.
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There is no such thing toxic masculinity, only toxic human behavior.
Boring men make the best husbands and fathers because they are at work earning the money or home doing the boring home/family centered chores. Exciting men are off adventuring, spending time and money they haven’t got on something or someone other than the family.
Laz is so good, he’s very bad.
She speaks for a lot of women whether they want to admit it or not. They find nice guys boring so they go for “exciting” jerks. Then when they inevitably get hurt they blame all men for it.
Well no. Not really. Look closer to home for the source of your problems.
Men should have strong character and practical skills needed to lead a family.
Women should have traditional skills and values in order to raise and care for a happy family.
Other people can do their thing, and go their way, and generally be miserable.
“it’s more exciting if you date a guy who beats the crap out of you once a month”
Some women have such low self-esteem that they think they do deserve it.
If a guy treats them well they just get confused and uncomfortable.
Typically they come from families where their single mother’s boyfriends beat mom to a pulp.
Women are naturally attracted to masculine men. Most young men nowadays are video game addicted, slope-shouldered soy boys. Bad boys, unfortunately, are the perceived ‘masculine’ alternative. Chivalrous, moral, quality young men are a rarity.
Let us not forget that “bad boys” now include believing that heterosexuality is normal and not being a feminist ally (according to Google results, anyway). Shoot, I remember when leather, coke, and a motorcycle needed to be involved!
It’s in line with women’s dual mating strategy: Mate with the dangerous but capable alpha males who’ll ditch the mother anyway. The mother then tries to sucker in some beta cuck to simp and help the mother raise the alpha males’ children.
Some women like bad boys, some like nice guys.
The former usually end up endlessly bitching about men later in life.
One thing I have learned is that women categorize men into two broad classifications, the husband and the boyfriend. With boyfriend, she will make an effort to kerp him. She will dress up, buy him gifts, and she will be willing to have pornographic sex with him. With the husbands, she expects him to accept basic sex, if any at all, and she won’t really make the effort with him.
My advice, if you are the husband type, ramp up your expectations of her from the beginning because she isn’t expecting to have to work to keep you like she does with the boyfriend. If she doesn’t make thebeffort, be quick to cut her loose.
“How could the man I loved, whose children I wanted to have and breast-feed, be a heroin dealer?”
“It wasn’t heroin, it was angel dust, PCP”
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