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Nuclear family gets nuked by the Gen-Xers
The Australian ^
| 9/15/05
| Bernard Salt
Posted on 09/15/2005 9:28:57 AM PDT by qam1
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To: Antoninus
I would argue that many of these families were missing one vital component--an active religious life. Wishful thinking. Religion does not automagically fix all problems no matter how active and devout the religious life. Such assertions are vacuous platitudes that actively ignore reality.
I am the son of a small-town preacher in flyover country. Was an active religious life part of my family experience? Yup. Was my family dysfunctional? Yup. The religious aspect was almost entirely orthogonal to why the nuclear family was dysfunctional, and all the Christianity in the world wouldn't have fixed it (and didn't).
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posted on
09/15/2005 11:53:51 AM PDT
by
tortoise
(All these moments lost in time, like tears in the rain.)
To: Antoninus
I see nothing wrong with old (or young) folks who are alone and have no family sharing the same house as roommates. Not only will they have company, they'll be able to share expenses. It's sure better than having to get 200 cats for company.
To: tortoise
I am the son of a small-town preacher in flyover country. Was an active religious life part of my family experience? Yup. Was my family dysfunctional? Yup. The religious aspect was almost entirely orthogonal to why the nuclear family was dysfunctional, and all the Christianity in the world wouldn't have fixed it (and didn't).
No one said that any set up, even a nuclear family with a strong religious component was 100% bullet-proof against dysfunctionality. As a matter of fact, what you cite above is one of the main reasons why my Faith (Catholic) doesn't allow its priests to marry. It constitutes a division of loyalty between the pastor's flock and his biological family. So I would argue that the religious component in your family actually may have caused rifts that wouldn't have been there otherwise.
There is a reason why Catholic families have a heritage of being rock-solid. They're based on Truth, not platitudes. Those who follow the Truths of the Catholic faith are likely (not certain, but much more likely than not) to have joyous, successful, loving families. I thank God that mine has been so blessed thus far.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:02:26 PM PDT
by
Antoninus
(The greatest gifts parents can give their children are siblings.)
To: qam1
A world of bastards awaits.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:02:48 PM PDT
by
AD from SpringBay
(We have the government we allow and deserve.)
To: A Ruckus of Dogs
I see nothing wrong with old (or young) folks who are alone and have no family sharing the same house as roommates.
Yeah, but how often does it happen? You may notice that by the age of 40 or so, most people are so set in their ways as to make living with someone else difficult to say the least. And they get more set in their ways and difficult as they age--particularly if they've never had to be considerate of another human being sharing their living space before.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:04:22 PM PDT
by
Antoninus
(The greatest gifts parents can give their children are siblings.)
To: GovernmentShrinker
And more and more children are comfortable with their custodial parents subsequent significant others...Huh? Where did you get that idea? Seems to me that you are cheerleading for societal breakdown. What societies have flourished when its people stop honoring marriage and family?
To: Antoninus
Not in my experience. Of the three nearest neighbor families where I grew up, that had clearly happy functional marriages and were religious and active in their churches, one has 3 children (2 male, one female), none of whom have ever attempted anything like a nuclear family; another has 4, of whom 1 (male) is part of nuclear family, one (female) is single and childless, one (female) had one child while in a lesbian relationship and another on her own after that relationship ended, and the fourth (male) I don't know about; and the third family had two boys, one of whom has never married or had children, and the other married and divorced a woman who already had two children by a prior marriage, and still keeps in touch with those (now grown) children. So at most, this is 33% of these families' children who grew up to try form nuclear families at all, and 22% who succeeded in maintaining such families. Per my unscientific neighborhood sample, this is only very slightly higher than the rate for the children of parents who were miserably married, divorced, or religiously inactive (or some combination of those).
To: Antoninus
most people are so set in their ways as to make living with someone else difficult to say the least. I don't have any statistics on old folks in boarding houses but it would sure be interesting to see them. I did know a fellow who shared his house with 2 other unrelated people. Everyone seemed happy and able to get along.
I would say that, with a lot more people choosing to forego children than at anytime in history, it will become more common. Of course, people will have to decide what's more important - human company or their own living space.
To: GovernmentShrinker
This is just a natural change in society. Like in ancient Rome. At some moment Romans stopped to have children and they got replaced by the barbarians.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:19:22 PM PDT
by
A. Pole
(" There is no other god but Free Market, and Adam Smith is his prophet ! Bazaar Akbar! ")
To: GovernmentShrinker
Not in my experience.
Like I said, it's not bulletproof. The insidiously corrupting influence of the pop-culture has a lot to do with the destruction of such families as well. And too many parents, my own included to a certain extent, didn't realize this until late in the game. There but by the grace of God go I.
On the contrary, my wife and I are fully aware of the societal rot and intend to keep my own kids shielded as much as possible from the sewer our culture has become until they're old and smart enough to judge and reject it of their own accord. Homeschooling will be a big part of that. Lack of TVs in our home will be another part.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:22:11 PM PDT
by
Antoninus
(The greatest gifts parents can give their children are siblings.)
To: Antoninus; tortoise
I would argue that many of these families were missing one vital component--an active religious life. The traditional nuclear family by itself is not a panecea for all of society's ills. A nuclear family without God is just as likely to fail as any other random household unit. Actually no, quite the opposite
Divorce by religion (from Barna)
Born Again Adults - 27%
All other adults - 24%
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Non-denominational Protestant - 34%
Jews - 30%
Baptist - 29%
Mormons - 24%
Catholics - 21%
Lutherans - 21%
Atheists/Agnostics 21%
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:22:50 PM PDT
by
qam1
(There's been a huge party. All plates and the bottles are empty, all that's left is the bill to pay)
To: teawithmisswilliams
From the children of current friends and co-workers, from my memories of college classmates, from children who I used to know when I coached gymnastics, and from the revolving cast of college students to whom I've been renting rooms for the past 15 years. Not all children are miserable when the parent they live with acquires a new significant other. Some are quite happy about it. And a few end up being even closer to the new significant other and/or step-parent, than to either of their own parents. You may regard my position as cheerleading for non-traditional family structures, but I can just as reasonably regard yours as cheerleading for the failure of any alternative family structures. If children and adults are constantly bombarded with the message that they're supposed to be miserable if they don't live in a married-forever-with-children family, they're a lot more likely to be miserable, than if they weren't getting bombarded with that negative message.
To: A. Pole
At some moment Romans stopped to have children and they got replaced by the barbarians.
It was quite early in the game, actually. Augustus Caesar actually had to pass a law against bachelorhood to encourage the lay-about Roman men to marry and have children. The Romans existed on the stored up capital of their military system and societal prestige for a good 500 years after that, but their society was rotting from within for much of that time. When the Goths broke through in 378, the Empire was more or less an empty shell.
Thus Western civilization at present. Any guesses as to where the big barbarian break-through will happen this time?
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:25:17 PM PDT
by
Antoninus
(The greatest gifts parents can give their children are siblings.)
To: A. Pole
Like in ancient Rome. At some moment Romans stopped to have children and they got replaced by the barbarians. Actually, they got replaced by Christians, who did not practice female infanticide.
To: AD from SpringBay
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:27:15 PM PDT
by
thulldud
(It's bad luck to be superstitious.)
To: GovernmentShrinker
One of his big expenses is that he's having a lot of his money confiscated by the government to pay for raising your children. My 8 year old is in public school because I cannot afford private school on my budget.
My 3 year old is taken care of by my mother.
I am not signed up with any kind of government assistance - something I pride myself on.
So you place your condescending commentary where the sun don't shine, doll.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:29:16 PM PDT
by
RMDupree
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To: tortoise
For most people, it does not make sense to have children in your 20s For women, early 20s are biologically the best time for having children. Men are a different story, though.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:32:40 PM PDT
by
Feldkurat_Katz
(What no women’s magazine ever offers to improve is women’s minds - Taki)
To: qam1
No, not quite. Those stats leave out one very important factor--how many atheists even bother to get married at all? I'll bet if this chart included atheists who are in 'committed relationships', the stats would be dramatically different.
And, as with most of these types of surveys, it doesn't attempt to separate out those who are committed to their Faith from the RINO (religion in name only) types.
Even so, if 79% of Catholic marriages stay together, I'd say that's a much better trend than what we see in society at large these days.
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:33:01 PM PDT
by
Antoninus
(The greatest gifts parents can give their children are siblings.)
To: GovernmentShrinker
Ok, I'll bite. What do you think is a better arrangement?
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:33:10 PM PDT
by
Melas
(The dumber the troll, the longer the thread)
To: RMDupree
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posted on
09/15/2005 12:33:31 PM PDT
by
SuziQ
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