Hmmm.....
You want to be able to analyze a discussion within ten seconds or less, correctly interpret both the verbal and the non-verbal conversational cues, think on your feet and discuss the subject matter intelligently and confidently, and learn how to direct the course of the discussion while at the same time engaging your conversational partners in a healthy and satisfactory give-and-take?
Extemporaneous speech is both a Talent and a Skill. Those who possess the Talent (and I don't know that I am one) were born with it. But almost everyone can learn the Skill.
You'll want to consider the following Sterling College courses:
This course emphasizes the development of skills needed to successfully speak in public situations. These skills include audience analysis, listening, research, organization and the performance of original speeches. Students study and present speeches to inform and persuade. They also have an opportunity to experience and analyze group function and oral presentation as a group member. Meets general education requirement with a grade of C- or higher. (B or above for Education Certification.)
Introduction to principles of acting following Stanislavsky system. Detailed character analysis and development. Performance of scenes and one-act plays. Critical observation, analysis and discussion of performances to develop awareness of methods and basic technique. (Spring)
Creative experience wherein readers interpret and present the ideas and feelings expressed in classic and contemporary literature. Attention given to vocal production, diction, and face/body expression. Meets general education requirement with a grade of C- or higher. (B or above for Education Certification.)
Participation in intercollegiate debate, oral interpretation, speaking, and oratory. Candidates for teacher certification must participate in both speaking events and interpretive events. May be repeated for a maximum of four credits one of which must be service related (CT150S). Enrollment by audition or consent of instructor.
A concentrated study of the principles and skills involved in one-on-one and small group communication. Activities and research stress relational skills. Students improve their communication competence and their functioning in small groups. (Spring, even years)
Advanced scene study with emphasis on character building, developing concentration and relaxation through various techniques (such as the Alexander Technique) and a study of acting style in period plays. Prerequisite: CT125 or consent of instructor. (Fall, even years)
Overview of current theory and research in the major subfields of human communication. Significant studies and research advances in the context of interpersonal, group, and organizational communication. Focus on the physical tools and operations that humans use to communicate, the contexts of communication, and the communication research process. (Spring, odd years)
If I had to pick one, I'm guessing that "CT150/CT150S Forensics Laboratory 1 credit" is University-Bureaucrat-speak for "Debate Team" or "Speech Team". If so, that one course carries my highest recommendation. Of course, you'll end up spending at least 10 hours a week (30 or more if you really get into it) on a 1-credit class, but what will you get out of it??
Applied Logic, Conversational Analysis, Extemporaneous Speech, and (instant) Camaraderie with your team-mates... all rolled into one class.
Oh, and that's just what you're looking to take away from the class. If you really go gung-ho on it, you'll get to indulge your competitive appetite for winning Debate and/or Public Speaking rounds and competitions while you're at it. But you'll learn regardless.
Check it, yo.
Look, I know you are frustrated, but everyone has trouble meeting people - some just fake it better than others. Even I, who could talk to just about anyone, sometimes I have a hard time switching gears in a conversation.
Good luck...and don't be so hard on yourself........