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Dorm; 3 roommates (well, really 2 since one doesn't even sleep down here anymore despite still 'officially' being here). I do sometimes make a Coastal run with one of my roommates. He is just so hyper though; I need someone a bit more mellow for other things.....

The hyper one sounds like he can get you out of your shell though. You don't need any mellow friends right now.
It's time to have a little fun and lighten up.

I'm a middle aged woman, so I don't know what it's like to be a young man in college.
It seems to me that you need to make some male friends first.
Play a sport. Get interested in cars. Join a club at school (even if you don't love it).
Get a part time job, many friends are made at work.

The girl may be just a uncomfortable as you in the beginning of your friendship.
Be the one who's willing to be foolish

Don't be all anxious about it, m'friend. I was where you are about 12 years ago. :) I was painfully shy in HS; had some close friends I hung with, and that was it. Wasn't sure of myself interacting in social situations. In college I came out of my shell a bit; the best thing is to get involved...clubs and/or other organizations on campus. And hey, you could always -start- a club of your own! Is there a College Republican Chapter there? If not, start one up! (Conservative girls are always the cutest ;) I actually joined my residence hall council when I was a sophomore. That's where I met my best friends--a group of 6 or 7 guys that I hung out with most of the time; and my other club memberships gave me new friends to get to know. When you're around people whom you -know- have the same interests (many of them, anyway), you -always- have stuff to talk about. Don't force conversation; relax. It'll come. Trust me. :)