[katnip]

The hyper one sounds like he can get you out of your shell though. You don't need any mellow friends right now.
It's time to have a little fun and lighten up.

I'm a middle aged woman, so I don't know what it's like to be a young man in college.
It seems to me that you need to make some male friends first.
Play a sport. Get interested in cars. Join a club at school (even if you don't love it).
Get a part time job, many friends are made at work.

The girl may be just a uncomfortable as you in the beginning of your friendship.
Be the one who's willing to be foolish

[rwfromkansas]

I do work for the library and also write the conservative political column in the campus paper (many people have stopped me to compliment me on that). There are not many clubs on campus, but I will see what there are.