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"In the mean time, get any job; no matter how little it pays. You need to get out of the house and away from the junk that's distracting you. You need to get back into the rhythm of working. At this time of year, anything retail is a sure bet."

Redcloak is giving you some good practical advice. and I hope you take it.

You sound a lot like my former husband, whom I divorced because he did not work, yet who still lives with me because I am a soft touch, filled with Irish/Catholic guilt and I will not throw him out because he WILL live in the street. Am I doing a good thing, or a bad thing, I don't know. I'm leaving my judgement of myself to God, and I hope all here will do the same.

But my point to you is that YOU have a problem, and you need to solve it. My ex-hubby is 50 years old now, he has never held any job for more than a year, he has no health insurance (which is one thing when you're 20 or 30, quite another when you're 50); he's got far less in material wealth than do other members of his family, and when you get too old to party (or play video games, or whatever)all night (and this does happen, I'm sad to report) well, just let me say, the teenaged style lifestyle starts to really s*ck.

Hubby (I still call him hubby, it's just a lot easier than explaining all this to people all the time)is a very unhappy person, and he has brought it on himself. I sincerely urge you, as did another poster, to have yourself evaluated by a competant health care provider for depression, or possibly bi-polar disorder. I wish I could get hubby to do this, thus far he has refused.

Hubby would probably strangle me if he ever saw this post, and I'm really hoping your original request is not some kind of a joke, but I know full well that your story is a common one.

Please, I've revealed some very personal things here and I've done it in a sincere effort to help you and your wife and child have a happier life than me, my hubby and our child have had. Take all the good, sensible, pragmatic, spiritual and theraputic advice you are being offered here and USE IT! Don't just say "yeah, yeah, yeah". Build up your self-esteem by striving hard and save your family and yourself.