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Prayer Warriors Needed - FReeper desperate
myself
| 11/12/02
| Genesis defender
Posted on 11/12/2002 4:36:35 PM PST by Genesis defender
This is my first article posting, so I hope I do this right.
I am desperate. My world as I know it is falling apart. Last Thursday morning my wife told me I have until January 1st to move out. She is kicking me out because of many things, but I will list as many as I can recall.
She has good reason to give me the boot. We have been married for five and a half years, and before we were married I promised her that I would take care of her and support the family so she could stay home. Unfortunately, I have a huge problem with following through on my promises.
For five years I have made similar promises of getting a job, looking for a job, and just doing chores around the house. I tried for a time, but eventually slid back to my typical behavior of procrastinating. I have held various jobs throughout this time, but none were well-paying enough to support a family.
To make things worse, I had an addiction that prevented me from doing constructive things with my time. Please don't laugh when I tell you what I was addicted to. It was video games. I would play at times six to eight hours a day during periods of unemployment.
Two Saturdays ago, my wife first told me she had been thinking of kicking me out, and at that point I did something I should have done years ago. I asked her to come into our computer room, collected all of my computer game CDs (close to 30 in all), and I broke all of them.
I thought that had been enough for the time to prevent me getting kicked out. But I was wrong.
Complicating things is the fact that we have a two and a half year-old son together. I love that little boy a whole bunch, but I haven't provided properly for either him or his mommy like a husband and man should.
I have been an awful human being towards my wife. I have had her hopes up, then dashed so many times. She has told me she likes me as a friend and our son's father, but she says she no longer loves me as a husband.
She has also told me she doesn't know what she wants me to do that would make her love me again.
We are separating, not divorcing (for now). She told me the ONLY reason she has not divorced me is because she is a Christian.
So I am asking for two prayer requests:
First, that the Lord will heal my crumbling marriage by fundamentally changing my habits and healing my wife's broken heart. I have frantically been trying to change, but I want this time to be permanent.
Second, that God would help me find a job to support myself by Jan 1st. I so desperately want to prove to my wife that I can support myself and be a Godly man for once in my life.
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To: CindyDawg
Guess he got his pity dose for the day.
To: CindyDawg
Why do I get the feeling this guy is still playing Asteroids?
To: John Jamieson
Nah, I think she busted his computer. CD
To: CindyDawg
Or, stopped paying for his online time!
To: CindyDawg
He could benefit from
This
To: riley1992
Are you addicted?
Take this easy quiz to find out.
1. Have you lost or almost lost your job due to video games?
2. Have you lost a relationship due to video games?
3. Do you hum the themes to the games you are playing in your head, or worse OUT LOUD?!?
4. Have you ever been in the mall and said to a friend, hey that guy over there kinda looks like Max Payne?
5. Have you played a single game for more then 6 hours a day?
Hey, he does look a little like Max Payne!
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posted on
11/12/2002 6:12:06 PM PST
by
Cagey
To: riley1992
I'm sorry. I can't look at "this" or my online time will be cancelled. People fight. I hope everything works out.CD
To: Cagey
"One of the worst addictions I have faced was Final Fantasy Tactics. I was just finished college and should of looked for employment but did not due to the time I needed to put into this game. Mr. Kevin Grim"Please send your prayers to this man, too. Oh, and while your at it, I could use a dishwasher. Thanks.
To: John Jamieson; Genesis defender
He isn't going to solve his problem wasting time looking for pity here on FR.Geesh, have you not one ounce of compassion in your body. He has admitted he screwed and is just looking for a little support. Seems so many people are quick to judge others with their self-righteous, self-centered egos they can't lend a bit of support. I believe some of us have hit rock bottom, emtionally or spirtually or whatever and just needed to pick our ourselves up again. And some don't have ANYONE to talk to, so lighten up J.J.
Don't judge unless you've walked in this FReepers shoes. I'm sure it is difficult enough without being ridiculed by you.
Genesis, you have my support. Now get off your rump and make things right with your wife, son, job, etc. It's still not to late. Keep your chin up, keep the faith and don't give up!!!!!!
To: Registered
"Next thing you know, he's going to be addicted to this forum" Like that happens..sheesh.
I can quit anytime I want to. I've quit many times before.
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posted on
11/12/2002 6:57:30 PM PST
by
Skooz
To: John Jamieson
I think his wife is the one needing prayers,she's been carrying the load of two for quite a while.... I have serious doubts that any man who could sit by for 5 years and basically ignore his familys needs for his own will suddenly become worthy.
He's looking here when he should be looking at GOD. FR is wonderful I know but it's no replacement for the Lord.
To: MotleyGirl70
Don't judge unless you've walked in this FReepers shoes Problem is some of us have actually walked in his spouses shoes and wished for years that we had the luxury of lounging around leaving the stress and work of raising a family to someone else while we marinate for awhile.
To: John Jamieson
I have one daughter, who is retarded, autistic, extremely hyperactive and has a sezuire disorder. Because of the autism she had major behavior problems. She's 23 years old now and still lives at home. Me and my hubby have worked extremely hard to get her where her behavior is managable and where she understands things and can do things for herself. The work paid off. She's a good loving kid. She's still a work in progress, but, then again aren't we all? After raising her, a normal child would have been a piece of cake.
And by the way, don't confuse compassion, understanding and love with someone who's a push over. You can't raise a child like this and be a push over, let me tell you.
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posted on
11/12/2002 8:31:16 PM PST
by
MsLady
To: Genesis defender
You have not only sinned against your wife and son, you have sinned against God. Repent. You should be talking to HIM, not us. Talk to Him just as you've talked to us. Recognize your sin and repent of it. Put it behind you and move forward. Give your wife a break and stop begging. Leave her alone. Get on with your life...get a job...any job. Two jobs. Some of us have three jobs. His grace will help you if you truly want to change. The change will help your wife, not your words. Give your life to Christ and get out there and do whatever you find to do. He will open doors by and by. You need to put your selfishness on the cross and step forward "a new creature in Christ Jesus." He will help you if you are sincere.
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posted on
11/12/2002 9:55:32 PM PST
by
brat
To: Genesis defender
Gen---
I'm so sorry to hear of your and Mrs. Gen's separation.
I know what it's like to let video gaming strain a relationship.
Are you willing to commute a few miles?
Make that quite a few.
I know that my place of employment is hiring; we have so much work that we're overtime most weeks.
It's decent pay (union shop).
It's in Winnebago County - south end of the city of Menasha.
Freepmail me for more information.
Will pray for you.
To: John Jamieson
I am laughing so hard at this "huckster" for prayers.
And, yes, I must say, also at the peoples who would offer prayers for this lazy misfit of a man.
Sorry, but we conservatives should tell him to lace up his boots and get out there and work.
To: jocon307
Methinks you need to build up your self esteem and kick the bum out!
To: Conservababe; John Jamieson
Huckster, huh? What would YOU know? Have you met the guy? I have! It cost him every shred of dignity he has to post such a confession - such an admission of guilt - here for all of us to read. He knows he did wrong. Can YOU admit wrongdoing before others?
And JJ. If you don't believe that you're a wretch just like everyone else on earth, I invite you to prove your superiority. Your ad hominem attacks upon an emotionally distraught human being are reprehensible. Don't go trying to say that you're offering constructive criticism. We all recognize the wolves when they attack. Think you're deflecting insight into your own character? All you do with posts like these is reveal your pride.
To: petuniasevan
Well, dearie, if you know him personally, what can I say. Can YOU clean him up for an interview for a job, and see that he goes once he is hired? Seems that his wife only wants him to work instead of playing games on the computer.
To: petuniasevan
I think he is revealing his ANGER. Raising all those "other-man's" kids, apparently, made an angry man out of him. Perhaps he should be asking prayer for himself. Ya think?
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