Ladies and gents, if ya can't support kids on your own, you probably should not have them ...eh? Maybe that is the view women and men should take into their marriages today given the divorce rate.
I notice that nobody is giving up on "finding true love" just because that may not last, so abandoning marriage because of what might happen, is a poor excuse. Sure, a woman, or a man either, could walk out of the marriage later, but all kinds of things could happen. What if your spouse becomes seriously and chronically ill? Do you not marry because that might happen? Nobody is promised a perfect life. People need to grow up, and the laws must be structured to support marriage and family, not work against them.
Finally, the only thing that will really save marriage, is if men and women live in obedience to God. That requires a change of heart, not of circumstances.
If you get a restraining order slapped on you, then obey it no matter how much she begs to see you. A friend of mine got set up this way and spent a year in jail for it. And, I won't go into what else it cost him.
There is also some poetic justice in seeing those unmarried women bitch about not being able to find a husband as those are usually the most likely women to latch on to a man eking out a decent living and pull such a scam. Fortunately men are finally wising up to them. I hope they stay freakin' miserable for the rest of their pathetic, unmarried lives.
Because you left out obedient.
Oh, and you lose your right to own guns as an added bonus.
And, the same goes for the "women." If I were a guy, I wouldn't commit to these bozos either.
The feminist movement destroyed the family. Women were convinced that marriage was dumb and they should give it away for free in order to be "free" and men got used to getting it for free. However, when they let go of the responsibility that comes with marriage and children they lost many legal rights. That fathers were so successfully disassociated from their children in the womb and could not assert their right to stop an abortion was a major victory for those who would destroy the family.
It's the freakin' marriage license!
A license is defined in Black's Law Dictionary, Fifth Edition, as follows:
"The permission by competent authority to do an act, which, without such permission, would be illegal, a trespass, or a tort. People v. Henderson, 391 Mich. 612, 218 N.W.2d 2, 4.
This begs the obvious question. Since when did "marriage" become an "illegal act"? Hmmm?
In the 1800's in America, the only persons who needed a marriage license were those people of differing races, who wanted to marry. Why? Because back then it was illegal for a white to marry a black (and vice-versa). Hence, they needed "special permission" from the State to perform an "illegal act".
Today, everyone blindly trots off to get a "marriage license" because, well, that's what you do, right?
When you obtain a marriage license you are essentially forming a "corporation", with the State acting in the role of "third party interest" with an "equitable nexus".
What are the "profits" from such a pseudo corporation? Children for one thing. Real property for another.
And that is why you cannot dissolve your marriage without the State's involvement, assuming there is a marriage license in effect.
And what about "separation of church and state"?
The act of marriage is a religious ceremony!
"By the power vested in me by the State of California, I hereby declare you husband and wife." What???
Imagine this. A Baptism license. Imagine Joe Sixpack saying; "Now, uh, let me get this straight. You're saying I got to get me a license to accept Jesus Christ as my Lord and Saviour?"
Did your great-great grandparents have a marriage license? No they did not. Did the world come crashing down? No.
George Washington married Martha Dandridge Custis in 1759. Do you suppose George Washington, the First President of the United States of America, trotted down to his local governmental "authority" and obtained a marriage license? Hell no, he did not.
So why do Americans get marriage licenses? Because they are dumbed down and ignorant, and that's by design.
I agree with many of the points contained therein. I will likely never marry again for many of the reasons cited in the article, and I'm most definitely not "Peter Pan," uncommitted, or immature. The reasons my ex cited in filing for divorce were based solely on her own convenience, and were not the result of any abuse, emotional distance, or dishonorable behavior on either of our parts. Our marriage and our lives were a great adventure in many ways, and when, by necessity, the adventure changed to something different for a while, she was the one who tucked tail and ran first.
This is not a rant against my ex though. She is honorable and successful (and a better shot than I am). We had an understanding, hammered out in excruciating detail before we married, that either party had an open door and was free to walk through it for good reason. I do not keep slaves, and am quite capable of doing my own laundry without turning all the white clothes pink. Her children were already grown and we had no issue of our own, so we were both fortunate that there were no child support issues to consider.
Since many women apparently feel that marriage is a part-time job or choose to define it as till death do us part or until something better comes along, I say "Ignore them and the horse they rode in on" when the next Sadie Hawkins Day comes along. My life is full and complicated enough as it is without blindly signing another social contract with a woman using invisible ink.
Child custody...wholly unfair.
Child Support: Women who need it get too little and Women who don't need it get too much.
Aside from insuring baby killing "choice", this little morsel is probably the FemiNazis/Womyn's Rights activists biggest pluck.
There is an infection among females particularly American ones. The vast majority are not worth bothering with.
I want to tell them, "I don't come in to help you clean up your personal act... You clean up your own act first, then I will think about joining up because of the fact that your act is together."
She will either contribute things, on equal turf, or I will leave.
Most and YES MOST, females (of my age group) have a serious 'blame the other guy', no respect, backbiting, inconsiderate, self centered, hate all men, mentality.
There are two types of contribution:
first type... being nice and respectful. Being happy. Having fun. Being intimate. Communication. All of these things are free and do not cost 10 cents.
Second type... washing dishes, 'having a baby', or cleaning the house, or for guys 'working all day'...
The second often get put into the first tier.
Things I will not do:
be accused
fight
argue
date the girl, and all of her friends also
I will not be in an unequal relationship
I can list a few more, but you get the idea... I have never been married, doubt I will. I have not been impressed.