Posted on 03/28/2002 2:11:17 AM PST by 2Trievers
Betty Dodson, 72, and Eric Wilkinson, 25, are not Harold and Maude, but their age difference invites comparisons. When they became an item three years ago, friends teased them about the movie -- which appeared several years before Wilkinson was born.
"I never even heard of it till I got involved with Betty," Wilkinson explains. "But there's no comparison. Harold and Maude were just friends. We're lovers. We've spent entire days in bed together."
"Oh sure, we got Harold-and-Maude teasing," Betty recalls. "So, I'm so much older. But so what? When men have girlfriends or marry much younger women, no one bats an eye. But the other way around is a big deal. What we have here is a sexual double standard. The teasing stopped pretty quickly when our friends and families accepted our relationship. In our social circle, things feel comfortable now."
Dodson and Wilkinson live together in her apartment on Manhattan's East Side. They also work together: Dodson has produced several sex education videos and sex toys. Wilkinson handles the business end, tracking their sales and working with the webmaster to keep Dodson's Web site current. Their relationship is not like most, but some of the lessons they've learned together would intrigue any couple.
When Dodson first announced that she'd spent a weekend having fabulous sex with the man she affectionately calls her "young pup," her friends were less incredulous about their age difference than they were about the fact that Wilkinson was male. Dodson hadn't had sex with a man for 10 years.
Dodson is not your ordinary senior citizen. She has a Ph.D. in sexology, has been one of America's leading sex educators for more than 30 years and is the author of the minor classic "Sex for One." She has also been the nation's most outspoken advocate of masturbation and critic of what she has dismissed as "codependent partner sex." That's why her friends were so amazed by her tryst. For the first time in many years, the godmother of masturbation was doing it consistently with a man. Next fall, the author of "Sex for One" releases "Orgasms for Two," which, she says, she "would not have written without Eric. I'd never write a sex book about something I wasn't currently doing."
Some matches are made in heaven. Dodson and Wilkinson's was made in bed. "When we first got together," Wilkinson explains, "we didn't have many work projects going, so for a good year and a half, we had plenty of time for lots and lots of sex. Then the work side got busier -- 'Orgasms for Two' was a big job, and running Betty's business took time and energy. Like any couple, more work has meant less time for sex. But we still have great sex regularly, and still enjoy each other a great deal."
Dodson says that other factors have contributed to their recent sexual moderation: "Hey, I'm feeling my years. I still love sex, but I can't fuck around the clock like I used to. Sexual frequency isn't the issue. It's sexual quality, and after three years, that's still great. Sometimes we have quickies. Sometimes we spend all morning in bed sharing orgasms. Sometimes we don't fuck for a while. It depends on what's happening. Of course, we also masturbate. I walked into the living room the other day, and Eric was beating off to some porn. And I keep a vibrator within easy reach.
Regards, Ivan
May/Decmember relationships between older men and younger women get an wink and a nod ... what is so wrong about vice versa?
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